WHAT LIVING FROM THE REAL SELF IS AND IS NOT?
Twelve years ago, I wrote a book called Living from the Real self (see Barnes and Nobles for purchase, below). This morning I began thinking about the real self. So, I decided to clarify for me what the real self is and is not.
The real self is not the big, grandiose self that you wish that you had to act as if you are it; the big self is a magical self, a kind of magical wand with which to banish all your perceived biological and social problems and give you trillions of dollars and make you the most powerful self on earth; that wished for self is a neurotic self, in some cases it is a psychotic, a deluded self, it is not real and cannot be real.
Because it is not real it must be wished for and defended, with the various ego defense mechanisms, to seem real in one’s mind’s eyes. Because one wishes that one were it, one feels fear, anxiety, anger, mania, delusion, personality disordered and schizophrenic in pursuit of it, for one is pursuing the unreal, one is trying to make a mere mental ideation, a mental construct real.
The real self is the constructor of the ideal, neurotic, and or psychotic grandiose self; it constructed the ideal, big self to help it live in body, due to the challenges of living in body.
If the real self no longer wishes for the ideal, big self and looks inwards, not outwards, it is calm, peaceful, and does not feel fear, anxiety, anger, and other mental disorders; it knows itself as part of life; life in its real state is formless, eternal, permanent and changeless; it is only when life is in forms, such as in animal state, human state, plants state that it becomes normal, or neurotic or psychotic.
NORMALCY, NEUROSIS AND PSYCHOSIS ARE DIFFERENT FORMS OF LUNACY
Normal persons pursue what we might call normalized ideal, big self, the group self, the average self; it is still insane but not as crazy as in neurosis; the neurotic pursues an exaggerated ideal, big self and lives in perpetual fear and anger from not realizing it; the psychotic has so accepted that he is the exaggerated, false ideal, big self that he is no longer afraid of it not manifesting in reality, he lives it as reality hence is outside social reality and eats from garbage cans.
Africans, Nigerians, Igbos are generally pursuing false, ideal, grandiose self and think that they are pursuing their real self; no, they are trying to become insane; in pursuit of their insane big self, they are willing to sell their people to each other, to Arabs, and to white people and these days, they are stealing everything that can be stolen in their land to have the means of seeming important; they live in fear and anxiety; most of them have narcissistic and paranoid personalities; they are pathetic folks who denied their real selves and instead attempt living from their imaginary wished for big selves.
What I say about Africans, of course, apply to all human beings; I merely use Africans, when I want to, to make my point.
ONLY A HANDFUL OF PEOPLE HAVE LIVED FROM THEIR REAL SELVES
Throughout human history, only a handful of people have withdrawn from normal, neurotic, or psychotic self and lived from their real self and, as such, were calm, and knew no intra-psyche conflict (from trying to be who they are not), and lived-in peace and walked through life always happy.
UNHEALED HEALERS AND HEALED HEALERS
The world is full of unhealed healers; these are the neurotic psychologists and psychiatrists who have not given up their pursuit of big self-and are pretending ability to heal people; they are the ministers of the various religions of Christianity and Islam who have not given up their normal, neurotic, or psychotic selves and live from their real selves trying to tell their followers how to live peaceful and happy lives.
If you want to heal people first heal you. You heal you by giving up all desire for ideal, big, grandiose self and now have no external derived self-construct that you want other people to approve as you; you just stay calm and live from your real self.
IF YOU LIVE FROM YOUR REAL SELF, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SAY ANYTHING AND YOU SHOW THOSE AROUND YOU HOW TO HEAL THEMSELVES
If you live from your real self hence is calm and peaceful, you do not have to open your mouth and tell people to become healed of their neurosis and psychosis they would go heal themselves by merely experiencing the peace and calm that exudes from your egoless self, from your separate-less self, from your special-less self.
You have now given you permission to be who you always are, a part of unified life, a unit of life that knows itself to be one with all of life and hence is in harmony with life and is relaxed.
A healed person, that is, a person who has given up his ego self is now aware that he is joined to all life, he no longer feels fear; even the animal fear that enables people to do what enables them to survive in their bodies departs from him.
Who are these healed people? Study Jesus Christ and Gautama Buddha for examples of such persons.
In the past several days, I have been rereading Ernest Becker’s book (1973). Denial of Death. New York: Free Press. This book has restored my faith in the White man’s capacity for reasoning. For many years now, I was operating from the premise that white folks are idiots and are incapable of doing anything that remotely seem rational. I dismissed their psychologists and psychiatrists, and I have supervised many of them, as typical five-year-old children who have little or no understanding of what constitutes mental health and mental disorder. Because I am so impressed by Professor Becker (he taught at my Alma Mata, University of California), I will do him the honor of writing a review of his book. He showed thorough grasp of psychoanalysis. Watch out for my up-coming review of Dr. Becker’s book. I highly recommend that you read it; it is probably going to be the best 314 pages that you ever read; but be prepared for a tour du force journey through Western philosophy, science, and psychoanalysis. If you enjoy intellectual stimulation, you may also want to read any of my 90 books. They can be purchased from Barnes and Nobles.
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by Ozodi Thomas Osuji PhD
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