BLAMING OTHER PEOPLE OR BLAMING YOU FOR YOUR PROBLEMS IS A WASTE OF TIME; JUST DO WHAT YOU CAN TO IMPROVE YOUR SITUATION
If you look at how your life turned out to be and want to blame somebody for it, you have three options, to blame other people for it or to blame you for it or to blame no one for it and just do what improves your life.
If you blame other people, you will find ample evidence for what they did wrong to you, you will find the wrongs that your parents, society, and if you are African, western civilization did to retard your progress. You could amass thousands of pages delineating what other people did to harm you and they all would seem rational in your eyes and in the eyes of those in analogous situation as you. Most poor people would agree with you that other persons are responsible for your poverty; for example, most Africans would agree with you that Western Europe did a lot to retard the development of Africa (slavery, colonialism and neocolonialism).
Each African tribe blames other tribes for its backwardness; if only they were in charge they would have developed their part of Africa; they want you to believe that they are innocent and are held back by other tribes, those who control the central government; then you look at them and they do not want to pay taxes, so how is the government going to get the money to construct roads, bridges, railways, airports and seaports, build schools and hospitals and generally build the environment that enables industrialization? No, they are responsible for their backwardness, not other tribes.
Alternatively, you can blame you and your people for your life’s rotten situation. You say if I did not have this character flaw, if my people, say, Africans, were not backward and so on I would be a better person than I am now. There is a lot of evidence to demonstrate that the individual and his society play roles in his achievements or lack thereof.
Whether you blame other persons or blame yourself for your situation, you would find evidence to support whichever approach you adopt in trying to posit a causal explanation of your situation. It is equally a waste of time blaming other people or blaming oneself for your situation.
What one can do is look at the situation as it is, now, and ask, what can I do to improve it in the realistic world without blaming me or other people. You then do what you must do in the objective world to improve your life and not waste your energy and time blaming other people or blaming you for your situation.
A life dedicated to blaming other people (which comes easily to people who consider themselves oppressed by other people) or blaming oneself (which comes easily to those prone to guilt feeling and depression) is a waste of time since neither improves one’s present situation.
Just do what you must do, now, to improve your situation without finger pointing, okay. Africans waste too much time blaming Europeans for their poverty without doing much to alleviate their poverty; indeed, what they do most is that they engage in corruption which retards their economic progress and then blame it on white folks, which does not improve their situation, or they blame their people and see them as lazy, which is equally a waste of time.
As the Nike ads say: Just do it, and do it now; in this case, do what improves you and your people’s lives and stop looking for excuses to blame for not doing your bit to improve you and your world.
It is immature persons who blame other persons for their situation; adults just do something to improve their world knowing that even their best would not make their world a perfect place.
Perfection is the enemy of the good, Barack Obama said.
December 26, 2021
EVERY PERSON MUST SEE HIS EGO AND BODY AS IMPORTANT AND TAKE IT SERIOUSLY TO WORK TO EARN A LIVING FOR IT. BUT IF ONE TAKES ONE’S EGO AND BODY TOO SERIOUSLY ONE NOW IS RIGIDLY PROTECTING IT AND LACKS SENSE OF HUMOR AND HAS PERSONALITY DISORDER, SO, RELAX AND SEE YOUR EGO FOR WHAT IT IS, NOTHING SEEKING TO BE SOMETHING IMPORTANT, WHICH IT CANNOT BE FOR IT WILL DIE AND DISAPPEAR FROM EXISTENCE
Every human being, indeed, every animal must believe that he is important, and that belief compels him to work to earn a living for his ego and body. If you see you as unimportant, as nothing then you will not work to earn a living and sit around doing nothing and die from hunger.
People must work to earn their daily bread.
Animals also work to earn their daily bread for they, too, believe that they are important and must earn a living for their important life.
If one no longer sees oneself as important, as happens in depression, one would not defend one’s ego and body and would die in a day.
Those new age religionists who preach ego/body defenselessness are asking people to die, now, not tomorrow.
You are free to commit suicide but if you want to live in ego and body you must work for your food, clothes, medication, shelter and other things that enable people to survive.
However, if you take your ego and body too seriously you develop a personality disorder, such as narcissism and or paranoia.
Fear, anger, paranoia and other mental and emotional disorders are rooted in people taking their egos and bodies too seriously.
Relax and smell the roses; you seek importance for your ego and body because they do not have importance; if they had worth, you would not seek it.
Go ahead and seek ego and body importance, it is the nature of human existence, but do it in a flexible and relaxed manner, not the frantic, neurotic effort to give what has no worth, ego and body, worth.
Make a habit of laughing at yourself, and telling jokes on you, for you are a paradoxical creature, a creature created to die and rot hence is worthless and yet you must seek worth for your transitory ego and body that would die.
December 26, 2021