Those who blame other people for their woes do not change their behaviors


Ozodi Osuji

     As long as Africans see themselves as the victims of white folks, see slavery as caused by white folks (who they think made them capture and sell their people, what a silly logic, no one made you do such a dreadful thing without your permission, you made you do it!), and blame other people for their past and present mistakes, they are not going to stop making horrendous mistakes.

     To be able to change your behaviors you first must accept that you are responsible for your behaviors, you must accept your past mistakes and then resolve to change them.

     The prodigal son asked his father for opportunity to leave him and it was granted him and he left and tried to make it, in a faraway land, on his own and eventually failed and realized his mistake in trying to leave his father, separate from God, and returned home, rejoined his eternal union with God and all his creations, and was welcomed back by his father with a feast.

     Salvation requires us to accept that we made a mistake, that we sinned and resolve to sin no more. You cannot continue denying your sin, continue sinning (separating from God, and selling God’s children, not loving people) and expect to be saved. Salvation requires you to love God and all his creations.

    If other people made you do something and you are a victim, you are powerless; powerless folks cannot do anything to help themselves. Thus, seeing themselves as victims makes Africans powerless, and they will continue making messes in their self-governance, steal from government, engage in criminal activities, and blame other people for their fallen house. They will continue being poor and suffer.

    Having victim psychology does not lift anyone up from poverty, only acceptance of personal responsibility for one’s fate does so.

      We must retrain African minds to stop seeing themselves as victims of slavery, colonialism, and neocolonialism; their present poverty is rooted in seeing themselves as the victims of those issues, issues that they caused by themselves.

     Please perform this little experiment. Observe your friends and divide them into two types, categories: those who take responsibility for their actions and fate and those who blame other people for their actions and fate. Now look at how they fare in life.

      You will invariably find that those who have what psychologists call internal locus of control/authority, that is, those who believe that they are in charge of their lives tend to be successful in life and that those who blame other people for their fate, those that psychologists say have external locus of control/authority tend to not do so well in life.

     Worse, those who blame other people for their fate, those who see themselves as victims and see other people as their victimizers easily justify and rationalize antisocial behaviors.

     Those with victim psychology who say that other people did this and that to them, who say that other people made them poor tend to justify stealing from other people.

      Criminals invariably blame other people for the way their lives turned out.

     Africans and Black folks who blame non-Black people for their fate do not do well in life; worse, many of them tend to become criminals and become habitue of jails and prisons; they are in and out of prisons. Their recidivism continues until they change their minds and accept responsibility for their actions and feel guilty and remorseful when they engage in anti-social behaviors.

     If you blame other people for your life, you are likely to engage in criminal activities.

     One of the surgeries that must be performed on Africans and African Americans minds, if we want them to become successful in life, is to help them get rid from their minds the notion that other people made them who they are; they must get rid of the idea that they are victims.

     No one is a victim!

      What is true is that we all do affect each other. We live in a general system where what any part of the system does affects all parts of the system; all parts of the system respond to what all other parts of the system do.

      White people’s actions affect Black people, positively or negatively; similarly, what Black people do affect Black people and non-Black people, positively and negatively.

    The greatest enemy of Black folks are those who tell them that they are white folks’ victims and or talk about how Europe underdeveloped Africa.

     Walter Rodney was one of the agents making Africans poor by telling them that other people underdeveloped them.

      Africans underdeveloped themselves by capturing and selling their people to whoever wanted to buy them, to Romans, Arabs, Europeans and to each other and in the present stealing from their governments and from other Africans instead of working hard to modernize their countries.

     And while doing these dreadful things to themselves Africans blame other people for doing it; in blaming other people they manage to retain vacuous and empty positive self-esteem; they see themselves as perfect and see nonblack folks as evil, while they are as evil as being evil can be; those who sold their people and steal from their people are the definition of evil.  Fortunately, evil human beings can change and become decent human beings; decency lies in loving and respecting all human beings and working for our collective social interests.

    Loving people do not sell their people and do not steal from their people; they work for the good of their people and for all human beings.

Ozodi Osuji

October 12, 2022

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