Love is experienced in formless oneness


Ozodi Osuji

“The course does not aim at teaching the meaning of love, for that is beyond what can be taught. It does aim, however, at removing the blocks to the awareness of love’s presence, which is your natural inheritance. The opposite of love is fear, but what is all-encompassing can have no opposite.

This course can therefore be summed up very simply in this way:

Nothing real can be threatened.

Nothing unreal exists.

Herein lies the peace of God.” (Introduction to A course in miracles.)

     I love poets. They manage to state the truth that we all feel but somehow cannot explain it. Poets do not know how they came to know the truth they write about. If you insist on asking them to explain how they arrived at their truth they would say that they just know it, in the old they used to say that the Muse put the answer into their minds. In effect, they do not, as persons, know how they know what the truth is but just know it as the truth and articulate it in songs or writing but cannot explain it.

     I am a thinker. I think and despite all my thinking I have not been able to know what the truth is; of course, I do use my intellect to express what I think is the truth, but intellectual expression is different from knowing.

     Let us consider the idea of love.

      The spiritual poet, Helen Schucman, in her poem, A course in miracles, without really explaining anything implied that individuality, which is attained in separated living, is the antithesis of love. In individuation I am over here, and you are over there; we are each incased in our bodies; each of us believes that he is different and separated from the other; each of us works for his self-interests. Because we are pursuing separated existence and interests, we tend to at best temporarily cooperate for what we think serves our mutual good but otherwise are more likely to be conflicted because we see our interests as different from each other.


     Dr. Schucman implies that in separated existence we cannot know what love is. But because in separated existence each of us feels lonely, we attempt to reduce our sense of loneness by forming what she calls special love relationships. Here, each of us maintains his individuation, his separation and attempts to use his different self to love a different self.

     Here, love is sought pragmatically, each partner has what the other desires. Most human beings desire respect and material wealth. Thus, if another person respects your ego, separated self and can give you what you need to survive as an individuated, separated self you claim to be in love with him.

       If a man tells a woman that she is beautiful (she desires to seem beautiful and attractive to men) and gives her the means to live a life of comfort (money, house, cars and other material things) she says that she is in love with him.

      Men tend to desire respect and power. If the woman respects him and makes him feel powerful, he says that he is in love with her.

     Both folks stay together for as long as each gives to the other what he or she desires. But the moment one partner stops gratifying the other’s ego needs they quarrel and separate from each other.

      If you do not tell your woman how beautiful she is and do not provide creature comforts for her or if she no longer makes you feel important and respected, both of you quarrel and leave each other.

     When special love ends you now see each other as a monster and want to slay each other. You use the legal system to try to kill the person you had hitherto said that you loved. Taking all his money is not enough for you; what you really want is to have him dead for wasting your time, and making you age hence unable to catch another young admirer of your body beautiful. If, however, you go too far in your heartless efforts to enslave him to be serving your hurt ego, well, one day your body may be seen floating on a river. Two people can play heartless games.

     Thus, in America hitherto so-called lovers, upon divorce, are likely to kill each other. This means that when they claimed to be in love they were not in love. Real love cannot be heartless.

      What we call love in our ego separated world is at best special love relationships, relationships meant to ameliorate the suffering of our ego separated selves. I said minimized not eliminate the sufferings of the ego.

      In ego we feel alone, fearful, anxious, depressed, paranoid, manic and schizophrenic. In special love relationships those mental disorders are ameliorated, kept at bay but when our so-called love relationships end, we return to them. Upon divorce folks become insane for now they reexperience all the problems of the lone ego.

      To reduce those negative feelings they quickly, as they say, fall in love again. They accept any person that tells their bruised and rejected vanity that they are beautiful and respect worthy and embark on another special love relationship where the problems of separated living are ameliorated but not eliminated.


      Helen Schucman seeks a middle ground, what she calls Holy Relationships. Here, people are still individuated and separated but somehow real love has entered their minds. At a deeper level they recognize that they are one shared self and one shared mind. They recognize that the other person is not really another person but is a part of their selves. They know that as they treat other persons, they treat themselves.

     In ego we tend to believe that we can hate other people and not hate ourselves. In Holy Relationship we recognize that at the deep level what we do to other people we do to ourselves. If you are a racist and hate people from other races, on the surface you seem okay, but you hate you for whatever you do to other people you do to you. Hate others and you hate you, albeit masked self-hatred. Love other people and you love you.

      In Holy Relationships whereas folks still retain the illusion of having separated selves they now use their separated selves to help each other, they work for public good and serve social interests. In working mostly for their social good they reduce the level of conflict they feel in interpersonal relationships. They easily love and forgive each other. They are relating to each other from their right minds, from the part of their minds that love resides, that the Holy Spirit resides, that their real selves, Christ resides. But since they still desire the illusion of separated living, they are not fully sane yet; they are now mildly insane. They tend to have happy dreams (if you believe in separation you are dreaming, truth is unified), have a good relationship with people. Occasionally, they let go of their defense of their ego separated selves and experience themselves in light forms.


     Yes, you can see you and other people in light forms. If you consistently love other people hence love you, forgive other people the evils that they did to you, hence forgive your evils to other people, you tend to occasionally see people in light forms. As you see other people you see you; see people as beautiful and you see you as beautiful, see other people as ugly and you see you as ugly.

      If you continue on the part of love and forgiveness, when, on earth, you die you will see you in a world of light forms; you will still see a separated world and see people, animals, plants, hills, planets, stars, and so on but now they all are in in beautiful light forms; this is our world purified by love and forgiveness. It is a world that approximates heaven but is not heaven. This is because it is still in forms and separation and if we are in forms and separation, we are not in heaven.


     What exactly is heaven? Heaven is a state of oneness. In heaven you feel formless and know all people as formless; since only the formless can join you join other formless beings; you are now in other formless beings and they are in you; all of us are one formless self and one formless mind; there is no more separation  between you and other people; there is still you and other people but you know that you are one with other people.

      Heaven is oneself. God is one but he extends to infinite sons; in heaven you and I know ourselves to be parts of oneself.

     Since the best approach to each other is to do that which does not harm each other, to love each other, in heaven we love each other and in doing so experience perfect love, perfect peace and joy.


      What is love? Poet Helen Schucman said that words cannot speak about heaven for words are meant to describe the separated selves, egos and their separated world. In heaven where we all share oneself and one mind words are superfluous, there are no words in heaven; there is only knowing.

     What do we know in heaven? We know with absolute certainty that the infinite us are one shared self with one shared mind and since what we do to other selves, we do to ourselves we love all people to love ourselves. Heaven is perfect love.

     Heaven is sanity for here folks know that what they do to other people they did to themselves.

    There is no space and time in heaven so what you do to other people you have done to you, and you immediately experience it.

     On earth where there is space and time, we do good or terrible things to other people and do not immediately experience the effects of what we did to them and did to us. On earth we do not realize that what we did to other people we did to us, not immediately, anyway. It may take many years or even lifetimes before we experience the effect of our evils (there is no space and time so years, and different lifetimes are merely the creation of our minds).

    We hate people today and they are angry at us and seek opportunity to hate us and will hate us in this lifetime or in future lifetimes; one way or the other we always experience the effects of our actions, karma is real. However, if those you wronged forgive you, they prevent you from taking the consequences of your evil behavior.

     Hateful empires always self-destroy hence empires rise and fall. This will continue until empires finally work for our collective good, in which case they will survive for thousands of years and thereafter transit to the real world, to the gate of heaven, to the world of light forms at the gate of heaven.


      In heaven we still have individual selves but know that we are in each other; heaven is perfect love for we know that we are shared oneself and know that rationality demands that we love other people to love ourselves.

      Thus, real love is only possible in formless heaven. This type of love the poet cannot describe but can only point to.

       Hence Helen Schucman tells us to try to attain Holy Relationships, to simply love and forgive each other and thereafter we will experience oneness, unity, love, a type of experience that can only obtain in formless, unified state and words cannot describe it.

      Words cannot describe love. You know love when you experience it. Look at another person and you see his or her form. You can respect and care for the form. But look beyond the form to the formless selves in people, to the spirit of oneness in all of us, to the Christ in all of us, to the God in all of us and before you know it you experience oneness with those you love.

     In that formless love you know that both of you are united, eternal, permanent and changeless. But you cannot experience eternity, permanency nd changelessness in separated state, for separated self would then be permanent.

     Separated self is temporary, is an illusion. The wage of sin is death. Separated self is a sinful self. In the Garden of Eden, we were unified self. We sinned when we separated from God and from each other.

      We overcome that original sin of separation by returning to unified state, to love, to sanity, to God.


      I am not a poet, I am a thinker, a philosopher and a scientist. I study and understand things. Poets do not study things but speak from a deeper part of them that knows about our unified, formless state.

     The poet articulates the truth in poetic language; the philosopher tries to explain what the poet said. Poets And philosophers are needed in our world.

     The scientist is needed; the scientist explains the nature of matter, elements, atoms, protons, neutrons, electrons, space and time but is explaining the world of dreams and cannot make people feel satisfied.

     The applied scientist, the technologist can give us the means to live well but cannot give us peace and happiness; only return to love, union with all selves, can give us peace and joy.


      This morning I went to Church, kind of; after the church service I wandered into the Church’s considerable library. I remembered that I had heard about OSHO and wondered If there is a book by him in the library.

      Eureka! there is one. It is titled, The Book of Secrets. It is over 1300 pages long. It is scary to pick up such a humongous book. Given my history, it will take me over a month to read this tomb.

      But I remember that the Chinese say that a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step at a time. So, when I got home, I took one step in the direction of this latest one thousand miles journey for me to travel: I dived right into the book, from page one.

     After the first fifty pages I realized that OSHO is telling me what I already know. For example, the idea that real love, not special love, can only exist in formless oneness that I wrote above he talked about when he was talking about tantra yoga; he couched his talk in his inherited Hinduism.

    The man is impressive. I am determined to power through his ginormous book and along the way learn more about Hinduism, Buddhism, Taoism and Zen, religions that years ago I studied but moved on to find my own path to God in spiritual science.

Ozodi Osuji

October 24, 2021

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