EACH PERSON MUST IDENTIFY HIS EXISTENTIAL PROBLEM, A PROBLEM THAT HAS BEEN WITH HIM ALL HIS LIFE, AND SOLVE IT; ONE SHOULD NOT DENY ONE’S BIOSOCIAL PROBLEMS JUST TO SEEM OKAY
Last night, I wrote that right from the beginning of my life, at least, from the time that I developed self-awareness, which was the year that I began elementary schooling, at age six, I was aware of feeling inferior and compensating with desire to seem superior to my environment, which includes the physical and social environment, people included. I know that at school I wanted to be the best boy in my classes and was not.
I was no good at sports because of my inherited biological issues (Cytochrome C Oxidase Deficiency, Spondylolysis and Mitral Valve Prolapse); these medical issues made me feel weak most of the time.
I felt bad been weak and restituted with what psychoanalysts like Alfred Adler and Karen Horney called desire for ideal self, a self that wanted to be powerful and important.
If people did not treat the six years old me as if I were important, I felt angry at them. I kept to myself because by withdrawing from other kids, they did not treat me as if I were inadequate, and in social isolation I retained my imaginary sense of importance.
I was driven to succeed. I went through elementary schools’ (a couple of them) secondary school and university and did not stop until I had the doctorate degree at an early age and began teaching at a university at California.
I had thought that having a job as a professor would make me feel important, but it did not. In my early thirties I decided to find out what I can do about the problem of sense of inadequacy and drive towards unrealistic adequacy. That took me to both secular psychology and spiritual psychology.
I believe that I have understood my existential issues. A confluence of biological and sociological issues made me feel inadequate and I sought exaggerated adequacy. Since I am mentally gifted, IQ that is out of this world, I developed the annoying tendency to see most people as inferior to me.
My arrogance caused me loads of interpersonal problems.
All people are equal and want to be respected. Because I did not respect folks, I did not get along with them (when I was a college student and visited Washington DC, I did the White House tour thing; I felt superior to the guy living there; that was how arrogant I was).
Well, I had a psychological problem that originated in my inherited biological issues and the sense of second-class status that the contemporary world relegates Black folks to. I had to deal with that psychological issue.
I dealt with it by resolving to never give in to thinking and behaving from a sense of power and importance and, instead, to keep quiet and let the healthy part of me, the part that accepts all human beings’ equality and sameness behave from me. The more I do so the more I feel peaceful and happy.
I am honest with myself. Are you honest with yourself? Do you let the people around you know who you are, or do you pretend to be healthy?
Listen up, I have amazing diagnostic skills; looking at you for an hour I can write your psychological profile and you can take it to the best psychologist and psychiatrist in the world and he would agree with my assessment.
I took one look at Donald Trump in 2015, the day he came down the escalator to declare his candidacy for the US presidency, I had not seen the man before, and I wrote a three pages psychological assessment of him and posted it at social media, on that same day. I assessed him as a pathological narcissist and sociopath, a habitual liar. Yes, that was my first time of seeing the clown and I got him right. It took years for other mental health professionals to see what I saw within an hour.
You may deny what I say about you, all I can tell you is that to date, no one has ever found my diagnoses incorrect. The reason I am so accurate is because I am honest with myself. I know my neurotic issues and do not deny them (by the way, Sigmund Freud and most of the psychoanalysts were neurotic; Freud was an obsessive-compulsive neurotic; Alfred Adler was like me, an anxious avoidant personality).
I urge you to know your issues and do not deny them. If you can afford it, it costs about $1000 to do psychological testing, go to a clinical psychologist to do a psychological assessment of you. This entails doing a personality test on you (usually the MMPI and face to face talking to you) and IQ test (usually WAIS for adults and WISC and Stanford Binet for children).
Most people have normal personality; that is, they have mental disorders but within manageable level, it does not mean that they are mentally healthy.
Most people are average in intelligence (IQ from 85-115…these are the workers of this world), about ten percent of the people have above average IQ (118-130…these are the professionals of this world, the medical doctors, engineers, lawyers, professors) and about two percent of the people have superior IQ (IQ over 132, the artists, research scientists), and two percent of the people are mentally retarded (IQ under 70…these probably cannot complete elementary schooling). Occasionally, we see a genius, IQ over 140 (these are rare and often seem mad but are not mad, they just think differently from average folks).
My friend, do your personality and intelligence tests and stop pretending to be who you are not.
Socrates told us to know who we are. In our world we now have the instruments to understand our personality types and level of intelligence.
If all people know who they are and struggled to improve their selves the world would be a better place. The problem is that most people pretend to be who they are not, many of them are suffering from personality disorders (only about one percent of the people have mental disorders, such as schizophrenia, bipolar affective disorders and so on).
Well, my friend, let us make our world a better place by knowing ourselves and stop pretending to be who we are not.
Have a good day.
February 4, 2022