BLAMING OTHER PEOPLE OR BLAMING ONE’S SELF IS A MISTAKE MADE TO PROTECT THE PERFECT EGO THAT DOES NOT EXIST,
THERE IS NO ONE TO BLAME; JUST DO YOUR BEST AND LEAVE IT AT THAT
Black folks and Africans blame white folks for their backwardness; they blame colonialism, neocolonialism, and white folks’ discrimination for their failure to measure up to the other races; it all makes sense to them; this blaming of other folks enables them to retain their false, big ego selves that say, if it were not for those bad white people, they would be better than they are now.
Blaming other people, and seeing other people as victimizers and seeing one’s self as a victim, gives the people blamed more power than they have in reality.
Black folks who blame white folks for their fate exaggerate the power of white folks. When you get close to white folks you realize that they are as powerless as black folks are hence could not have caused the fate of black folks, as black folks imagine that they did.
Blaming white folks is based on the false assumption by black folks that white folks are gods hence all-powerful relative to powerless black folks!
Those who blame other people for their condition tend to develop paranoid personalities because they retain a sense of perfection and big self while they are still failures but see the reason why they are not successful and perfect as other people’s fault.
Do not seek perfection and bigness and you would not feel like a failure and would not have any need to blame other people for anything.
The other mistake is to blame one’s self for one’s apparent failures in life and become depressed; here, one says that one failed and did not do well in life because of one’s fault.
If one failed in life there are always biological and environmental reasons why one failed; perhaps, one inherited a weak body, perhaps, the environment did not encourage one and ignored one’s efforts.
One should not overly blame Africans for their backwardness, there were reasons why they remained backward. As Jared Diamond Pointed out in his book, Guns, Germs, and Steel, (New York: Norton, 1999) no major civilization emerged in the tropical regions of the world; most significant human civilizations were in the Mediterranean and temperate regions of the world.
Nevertheless, it is one’s desire for perfection and a big self that makes one feel like one failed to attain those false, grandiose goals. If there is no desire for a big, perfect and powerful self, one does not feel like one failed relative to it.
The fact is that there is no one to blame for one’s failures; neither you, nor other people are to be blamed for your failure; at any rate, there is no self that succeeds or fails, the ego is a fantasy, an illusion and does not, in fact, exist. One should just do one’s best and leave it at that; just flow with life.
Don’t blame you and don’t blame other people for your failure or for anything else.
Uju Anya got her Andy Warhol’s fifteen minutes of fame by blaming the queen of England for her African people’s obvious backwardness. As long as the death of the queen was in the news, she was famous but now that the dead queen is no longer in the news, the oppositional-defiant woman sinks back into nothingness.
Blaming other people or blaming oneself does not give any one true sense of worth, only love gives human beings a sense of worth.
September 27, 2022