Wednesday, 20 September 2017 16:02

All we can do is manage our egos; use them to love one another

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Ozodi Thomas Osuji

The poor old ego has been flogged to death; people have written tons of literature about what an awful thing the ego is.

Yet, as long as we remain in this world of space, time and matter we shall have separated ego selves, for the ego is the individual's adaptation to the universe of space, time and matter.

Clearly, each separated self seeks its self-interests for its primary goal is to survive. It wishes for the survival of other people, especially its family members but its primary goal is its personal survival. This is the way it is; it is the nature of our world.

Given its self-centered nature and the problems it causes us, men of goodwill want the ego to disappear and for it to be replaced by non-ego self. Religions talk about how to transcend the ego and reach egoless state.

But what is non ego self? Non- ego self means having no separated self. If there is no separated self then there will be no world of space, time and matter, no separated world. Therefore, the wish for non-ego self is impossible of accomplishment in our world of space, time and matter.

People can only have no egos when they leave our world and return to the unified self and its unified mind, aka heaven.

In heaven you don't see our world of separated selves and its space, time and matter (that heaven is inside us).

Since, at present, people are in the separated world all they can really do is use their separated selves to love each other.

Please do not ask people to love other people and not love themselves for that is stupid; how can a person love other persons and not love his self? You cannot give to other people what you have not first given to you. To love other people you must love yourself.

What is doable in this world is to love one's self and love other people, to transform the ego to an ego of love.

Talk of eliminating the ego is impossible of attainment for as long as we live in this world.  We can only have unified self and unified mind in heaven.


Where is heaven? Heaven is inside us; it is our real home; our real self (unified self) and real home (unified consciousness) is already inside us; we are always inside heaven; we are always our real self, unified self.  While as it, unified self with its unified mind, and in heaven (unified consciousness) we dream our world of separated selves and separated world.

Our world of separated selves, space and time is literally a dream world; it is not real.  We can choose to have happy dreams and use our egos to love other egos in bodies.

When we use our egos to love other egos in bodies and thereafter die we transit to living in the world of light forms, a world that still looks like our world but everything in it is made of pure light.

The world of light forms, aka gate of heaven, is still a dream world; it is not our real home and the light formed self is not our real self.

Our real self is formless; it is pure light; each of us is a particle of that wave of spiritual light; wave and particle are one.

Let me emphasize that all three worlds: the world of dense matter, our present world of separated selves, space and time, the world of light forms and the unified world are all inside us.

These three worlds are not places outside us; they are states of our mind. Right now you can, while still in our world of separated selves, shift your perception and see you in the world of light forms; and while there deny forms and know yourself to be in the world of formless unified self with its unified mind (aka unified consciousness).

You do not have to die before you experience the world of light forms or formless heaven; you can simply change your mind, change your consciousness and be in the world you want to be.

If you are dying to ask me if I have experienced the three worlds, the answer is yes; if you ask me to prove them to you, well, if you had to ask that question you are at the lowest level of spiritual evolution and even if I stood on my head and tried to explain what transcends our world of separation to you, you would not understand it.

Just do you a favor, will you? Overlook our world and love all people and you will see our world transformed into the world of light forms; while there, reject all forms and you will experience formless light (unified consciousness, heaven).

Death is an illusion that seems real to those in our world but the fact is that there is no such thing as birth and death; no one lives in body and therefore no one dies; living in ego and body is living in a dream and what happens in a dream has not happened; when you are in the dream it seems like people are born, age and die but when you awaken from it you know that you were not born in body, never lived on earth and did not die; you were just dreaming that you are in body and in an imaginary place called planet earth.

I am going too far for most people. Just do yourself a favor and accept that you are at present identified with the ego and that other people are identified with egos; thereafter use your ego to love you and other egos and obtain relative peace and happiness; there is even more relative peace in the world of light forms but perfect peace and joy exists only in heaven.

See if you can understand what I said here. If you do and live accordingly you will live in peace and joy, in bliss.


Although in this essay I am not focused on Igbos, let me just observe that Igbos are pure egos; they are unmitigated egotists; they live to gratify their egos; to make money and with that money live like peacocks; they masquerade around as very important egos; they are narcissistic beyond belief. As it were, they are at a lower order of being; they are primeval man. Obviously, they need to learn to transform their egos to egos of love; they have to use their egos to love other egos and  in so doing bring about a semblance of civilization in their present chaotic and anarchic world where each person looks only after his interest  and does not care for other people's welfare and somehow believe that they can have peace; no, if you do not care for other people's well-being and become rich they will steal from you; they will kidnap you and hold you hostage for monetary ransom, as they do in present Igbo land. Care for other people if you want your life protected by other people, do not care and you live in Thomas Hobbes's state of nature where all live in insecurity and life is nasty, brutish and short.

Ozodi Thomas Osuji

September 18, 2017


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Ozodi Osuji Ph.D

Ozodi Thomas Osuji is from Imo State, Nigeria. He obtained his PhD from UCLA. He taught at a couple of Universities and decided to go back to school and study psychology. Thereafter, he worked in the mental health field and was the Executive Director of two mental health agencies. He subsequently left the mental health environment with the goal of being less influenced by others perspectives, so as to be able to think for himself and synthesize Western, Asian and African perspectives on phenomena. Dr Osuji’s goal is to provide us with a unique perspective, one that is not strictly Western or African but a synthesis of both. Dr Osuji teaches, writes and consults on leadership, management, politics, psychology and religions. Dr Osuji is married and has three children; he lives at Anchorage, Alaska, USA.

He can be reached at: (907) 310-8176