Tuesday, 13 October 2015 17:07

Can Money Fetch Human Love For Real?

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Can money fetch love? You be the judge from experiences and circumstances observed and sometimes lived out. Money can do things and sometimes cannot. It all depends on what needs are to be at play. But human needs can be compelled to burst money to satisfy them. We are humans when human needs are satisfied. 

Elsewhere, in a thread in the Facebook postings of October 12, 2015, where the image below was posted bragging about what money cannot buy, one commentator, Matt, noted that money can buy love in Nigeria. So the bragging is a relative outcome. He further said that one can just simply start with giving to a lady a gift card or money of what he identified as phone rechargeable cards.Once that is done, he inferred, then the next thing that will happen is attention and love springing up.

Are you kidding the guys and gals out there? Is it so simple like that? Are rechargeable card users on the loose and crazy about hunting to get the cards to make calls and browse the net in exchange for love things? Money and love matters can be a thrilling discussion.

On the face value, Matt's observation sounds hard to believe but it is good to know. We can here assume that the tricky issue is obviously identifying who needs a recharge card as a basis for friendship and love at market plazas or selling points or stops.While it sounds funny to understand, I want to reflect with Matt's observation and say as below.

@Matt- You are totally correct regarding money and love. It is a world wide experience. With money anyone can buy love.

Love obeys and yields to money. Who among ladies here will contest this? If so go and love a wretched, a homeless and an illiterate. A guy with money to pamper a girl renders her a carry and go package.

What happens is that ladies experience being loved through offering solutions to their material and emotional requirements. Assist a girl with gifts of money and all else, you are a darling.

However, a guy spends for a lady to gain her loyalty and that is the power of giving and receiving.

A lady or madam who does the same to a guy commands the same attention, loyalty and submission.

The power of giving renders the receiver to be in debt.

Mauss and Bourdeur argued that giving is empowerment strategy to control another. Think of having sponsors and godfathers and the strings attached.

There are many reasons and interests why people offer gifts. In all cases, to give is to link to the receiver, connect, seek, get appreciation and in deed expect something in return called reciprocity.

That is why sometimes you hear love being explained as a reciprocal relationship. Love is reciprocal. A give and take.

Some call it love bank deposits meaning deposits and withdrawals of material and emotional practices - much like we do bank transactions with our personal and partnership bank accounts. Our accounts are linked to our spirits and power to act.

The more deposits you lodge into the account the more balance in credit and love you have to play around with and the more withdrawals you make the less money or love balance you will have to live with.

Emotional deposits are important to lovers. Love is good when emotional deposits are high and love is sour when emotional withdrawals are more than the deposits.

A cool love is when a reciprocal relationship balance is at the optimum, a break even point. A break even level denotes a point where power struggles and fights are minimal and loyalty is enshrined.

Friendship is maintained by giving, appreciating, reciprocating and being there for each other.

In marriage relationships consider behaviours as issues that tie in with power struggles. But giving and being loyal matters to keep marrying a practice of everyday outcomes.

To agree with Matt's remark, gift of money can buy love for fun and class. Money is a powerful language of making love to happen.

How is that?

You can read more of this discussion by reading a book titled: Marrying Wealth, Marrying Poverty (2007). Available online at www.amazon.com.

 
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Patrick Iroegbu Ph.D

Patrick Iroegbu is a Social and Cultural (Medical) Anthropologist and lectures Anthropology in Canada. He is the author of Marrying Wealth, Marrying Poverty: Gender and Bridewealth Power in a Changing African Society: The Igbo of Nigeria (2007). He equally co-ordinates the Kpim Book Series Project of Father-Prof. Pantaleon Foundation based at Owerri, Nigeria. Research interests include gender and development, migration, race and ethnic relation issues, as well as Igbo Medicine, Social Mental Health and Cultural Studies.

Website: www.igbomedicine.webs.com