Saturday, 04 February 2012 01:29

Be a Porn Star In Your Bedroom

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Some relationship problems in the home are caused by women. How can a woman live with the mindset that all that is important is for her to say “I do” after which her style of living doesn’t matter? This whole thing gets worse the moment a woman gets pregnant. A good number of Nigerian women believe in that old wives tale that says sex after childbirth should be kept until after three months.

Nigerian women are active as single girls only for them to become older than their mother just because of babies; I have four children and I still feel on top. I know a particular woman who was known as a flirt while in school. This very woman even got involved in a blue film scandal, but when you see her today, there is nothing appealing about her.

I will start with childbirth. Girl, there is no danger in you resuming full sexual intercourse three weeks after delivery(except for medical issues); it is purely a matter of personal taste but there are no medical reasons to delay. It is a bad idea to put sex off indefinitely because abstinence becomes a habit, and by the time you know it, the man is gone far from you.

The first time may seem a bit of an ordeal, but it is worth trying and speeds up the resumption of normal sexual relationships. Having orgasms soon after delivery helps your healing process. Orgasms help the uterus return more quickly to its normal state. It also helps in tightening your vaginal muscles.

You may not know this before now, but your man is also affected negatively by childbirth. After experiencing the pain of childbirth, a good number of men put off sex in an unconscious bid to prevent their partner from having to go through such “horrors” again. You must help your man recover from that shock by getting as close to him as possible even if the actual thing is not done.

You will also find women sleeping in a different room with their baby months after delivery; this is also wrong. 

I know in the African setting, you are not the only one taking care of your baby. Yes, you need to bond with your new blessing, but please, don’t forget the man. You should spend more time with him at this stage. Don’t allow the blessing of God to your family stop you from having the kind of relationship God intends for you.

Caesarean section is not an excuse to avoid sex. I have had a caesarean section but I resumed my exercises two weeks after it. You can have sex three weeks after that surgery, but the man has to be careful and wait a minute; sex isn’t just about the banging. Don’t allow the wrong mentality of our people affect you. You need to start seeing it as a process of delivery. There is nothing wrong in a caesarean section. However God chooses to deliver you is supernatural. I enjoyed mine, before and after. You can enjoy yours too.

Your baby is a gift from God, and the blessings of God add no sorrows. C’mon girl, get up and get going. Live your normal life, be happy, and enjoy the man in your life. Remember: what God has joined together, let no childbirth put asunder.

What happens after childbirth? What is your body like now that the baby is out? A good number of women are very careless with their body and this is not peculiar to the unread. Even the very educated ones are clueless when it comes to body care.

After childbirth, you must work tirelessly to ensure your feminine body is intact. You do this by engaging in Kegel squeeze and watching your sitting posture. Endeavour to keep it tight while seated and change that style of walk that makes you look aimless. At all times, your tummy must be properly tucked in. This is a very good exercise to help your sex life; try it, it works.

Then in the bedroom, I have said it before that every good wife must be a good chef, not cook, in the kitchen, a good housekeeper in the living room, a good prayer warrior, a good daughter to the mother-in-law, and in the bedroom, a porn star. Believe it or not, he wants some spice added to your sex life.

Are you aware that his constant nagging and anger could be because he is not getting what he wants in the bedroom? Are you aware that you can actually control him if to the amazement of everyone if you know what to give him and how to deliver it at all times?

Now let me tell you this, a lot of men are getting tired of the usual-missionary sex position where you just lie like a log of wood and have him do his thing; no way! You are talking about women liberation and getting women to rise to their place in life. It is not enough just occupying (just like the latest fuel subsidy protest) the bedroom, you must occupy him. Get him begging for you to stop. Are you aware there is a way you handle your husband that he becomes weak emotionally thereafter? You must get into the gym and get fit to be able to deliver. You must take your place and start riding him like those girls out there. You cant go on riding him with your mouth alone; ride him through good sex. Get on top and do the magic.

Sometimes, you keep bothering yourself about your flat boobs. Don’t worry, he is the father of your children and he understands. The most important thing is for your body to be supple and firm for him to touch. He will be scared of your obesity and untidy looks; please get it right with your weight.

Finally, don’t forget the act of foreplay. It must not be the man who asks for sex. Please learn to open up and tell your man you want him. You have to mean it when you say you want him and not because you know he is getting ready to go see Biola. The desire for him must flow from the inner part of your heart; this does magic.

When you get into the bedroom, you must be learn to make some sounds and let your husband feel he is the man. They say there are four kinds of women in the bedroom:

The religious- they make certain religious sounds like ooh God…

The Ashmatic- Aah,aah…

The obedient- yes, yes,oooh yesss…

The Aggressive- They tell you how to go about it and what to do to get it right.

Well, I don’t know which one you are, but your husband knows. The most important thing is for him to hear some sounds and not feel like he is sleeping with a log of wood. You can still enjoy good sex years after marriage, but it also takes the right and energetic man to get you there. More reasons you have to do the right dishes for him with some good natural aphrodisiacs.

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