Psychology

Sunday, 25 October 2015 22:53

Nigerian narcissistic exhibitions at Facebook

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Lately, I have been invited by many Nigerians to become their friends on Facebook and I accepted and I invited some to become my friends. Thus, these days when I visit Facebook I see many Nigerian faces there. I began to notice a pattern. The Nigerians are always uploading their pictures. Just about every day when I visit Facebook some Nigerians, especially the women have uploaded practically every picture they took that week on the social media. Often, some of them upload pictures taken years and years ago. I see their pictures, their children's pictures, their parents' pictures and so…
Wednesday, 30 September 2015 03:13

Understand your dreams and understand your self

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Dreams Are Critical In Understanding And Changing Our Personalities Ozodi Osuji On Sunday, September 27, 2015 I attended a workshop titled: Night vision or Nightmare. The presenter, Kaleem Nurridin said that our dreams teach us something about us and that our nightmarish dreams dramatically teach us about who we are. He said that if we pay attention to our nightmarish dreams and understand them that we would have understood the key issues in our lives. Whereas he did not use Sigmund Freud’s terms regarding how dreams are royal roads to understanding the human unconscious mind, the presenter, who approached his…
Sunday, 27 September 2015 20:17

On unrealistic idealism

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Generally, human beings consider the pursuit of ideals a good thing; it is believed that people and their society are improved when they seek mentally derived ideals. Where there are no ideals to work towards it is believed that people stagnate and decay. There is some truth to the need for ideals. However, it is also true that too much of a good thing can be bad for you. In some instances the pursuit of ideals becomes obsessive hence an unrealistic goal. In studying me I found that I am seeking unrealistic ideals and in doing so created problems for…
Friday, 25 September 2015 02:41

To be free black people must free white people

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In America the political system is controlled by white folks. Apparently, one of the political system's unwritten desires is to place as many black folks in jails and prisons as is possible. As we speak, one out of every four black men under age twenty four is either in jails, prisons or is supervised by parole and probation officers. White folks are jailing black folks at an incredible rate, preventing them from having jobs and preventing them from participating in the politics of the country, for if you are a felon you cannot participate in American politics. According to our…
Friday, 18 September 2015 05:37

From paranoia to son of God; from ego to Christ

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The term paranoia derives from Greek. The Greeks called mental illness paranoia. Literally, the term means that one is besides ones real self; one is who one is not in fact. The paranoid person has a real self but ignores it and acts as somebody else. Generally, he has a real self that he believes is inadequate and inferior and does not like that self and figures that there is an alternative self, a big, powerful, important self and strives to be that imaginary but wished for powerful self. The process begins in childhood when the child feels inadequate and…
Lesson 35 And Its Implication For Africans This lesson said that it does not matter whether you have positive opinion (inflated opinions of who you are, such as believe yourself very bright, wealthy and powerful) or have negative opinion of yourself (such as see yourself in a depressed light, see you as no good and a failure); it says that whether you see you in positive or negative light is irrelevant. The opinion you have of you now is an image based on your experience in the world. The world is an illusion and does not exist, literally, not figuratively.…
Monday, 07 September 2015 21:51

Transformation of character

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Transformation Of Character: From Ego To Christ; From Anger To Peace Ozodi Osuji I was perpetually angry. Why was I so? In childhood my pained and weak body (I was born with a disorder of the mitochondria) made me feel like the world is attacking me and trying to snuff me out, kill me. I felt totally vulnerable and defenseless. I felt like no human being or God was protecting me. I asked: how do I go about surviving in a world that causes me pain and nobody is protecting me? (Please note that I am trying to reconstruct the…
If you have anger issue this essay might help you understand and manage it. I purposely personalized it to help you personalize your anger so as to deal with it rather than intellectualize it and not work on it at the emotional level where it emanates. Please note the term manage; I did not say cured or healed; this is because as long as one lives in body and ego one will have aspirations, and not attaining those goals generates anger in one; all that one can do is manage one's anger, it is not easy to eliminate it. Even…
Being Angry At The White Man Does Not Solve Africans Problems Ozodi Osuji ANGER DEFINED Generally, a human being feels angry when he feels that a goal or objective he desires attainment of is frustrated; when a person desires something and does not get it and believes that he knows what prevents him from getting it he feels angry at that obstacle. Anger is energy designed to help the individual to remove the obstacle on his path to goal attainment. Anger is expressed towards things that one feels threatens one's life and the means for sustaining one's life. If one…
Wednesday, 26 August 2015 22:21

From seeing is believing to believing is seeing

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Hitherto, my philosophy is that what I see with my physical eyes is what exists; that is, seeing is believing. I assumed that most people have a similar philosophy? I see what seem to me a world outside me, a world that I did not seem to make and a world that I do not even understand. Everything in me tells me that the world is outside me. I see a physical universe composed of galaxies, stars, planets, trees, animals, people and the things we see in our immediate environment, such as houses, cars, trains, planes, computers, telephones, internets, etc.…
Friday, 31 July 2015 01:23

Understanding paranoid prophets better

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I studied the life style of Ramakrishna and Ramana Maharshi, two of India’s supposed God realized persons. From what I read I gathered that God realized persons have given up their attachment to their egos and stopped identifying with their bodies and see themselves as one with God. Because they have relinquished their egos they tend to be calm and peaceful and do not respond egoistically as ordinary people do when they feel their egos attacked. If a normal proud person feels his prideful ego pricked he reacts with anger but the self-realized person is not proud and would not…
Delusion disorder is belief in what is not true as true. For example, a weak and powerless feeling person may come to believe that he is as powerful as God is supposed to be. Henceforth, he sees his self as God or any other person that is supposedly powerful, such as Hitler, Napoleon and so on. The deluded person uses the object of his belief to mask his underlying sense of powerlessness and unimportance. In psychoanalytic categories he feels inferior and compensates with false sense of power and superiority (CF Alfred Adler’s individual psychology and Karen Horney’s neurosis as pursuit…
A Public Letter to Dr. JA Nigerians Tolerate White Folks Abuse But Displace Their Anger To Other Nigerians Ozodi Osuji Psychoanalysis has what it calls ego defense mechanisms; these (repression, suppression, denial, projection, displacement, rationalization, sublimation, reaction-formation, fantasy, avoidance, fear, anger, guilt, shame and so on) are ways we human beings defend our egos (the ego is one’s sense of separated self). One such ego defense mechanism is called displacement of anger. It works as follows. You have a job. You need that job to make a living, to earn money to pay your bills. Without a job you are…
Wednesday, 15 July 2015 01:09

8 Things You Should Stop Apologizing For

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I have done a lot of unnecessary apologizing in my youth when I misunderstood the Bible's "pride goes before a fall" injunction, when I thought I needed to please persons who mattered the least in my universe but who I thought were pulling the strings that made my world rotate on its axis. While I respect every co-tenant who shares the earth with me and may have a thing or two I might learn from, I have come to the realization that I am all I've got, and as William Ernest Henley wrote in the poem Out of the Night…
This write up is based on a dream I had this morning. In the dream I went to a fellow's house; in the middle of his room were millions of dollars lying everywhere; he was stuffing some of the money into large manila envelopes but did not have enough envelops. I undertook to go to my apartment and get more envelops for him. I got to my place and searched my cabinet's drawers and could not find the envelopes that I thought were there. I looked across from my door and saw an open door to another apartment and went…
Each human being has a self-concept; he believes that that conceptual self is who he is; he is mindful of how other people treat it; if they like it he feels fine and if they don't he feels bad; he defends that self for he believes that it is who he is. If the self-concept is real would it need to be defended? The real should not need to be defended to be real! The fact that the self-concept is defended means that it is not real; because it is not real if the self-concept is not defended it disappears.…
In truth people are part of unified spirit self, aka God and live in heaven. They denied their true status and now seem separated from God and each other and live in the world of separation. They make their separated living seem real by housing themselves in bodies and living in space and time. The world of separation, human society is a false world, it is a deluded world. Thus, human societies are organized delusional states where false selves, egos organize themselves with their delusional laws. This is what every human society is. I learned this lesson from observing my…
Why is it difficult to cure mental disorders? It is largely because mental health categories are based on adult reasoning whereas mental disorder was formed before the child had developed his reasoning faculty to its fullest. Since the child's pattern of thinking and behaving is set in child and he believes that it enables him to survive he is leery of changing it, even if the pattern is now not healthy. A human child is born; he lives in a specific body. That body interacts with its environment and feels in a certain manner. All children feel weak but some…
Friday, 26 June 2015 15:34

Still trying to heal igbo paranoia

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In everything we write or do the state of our minds are revealed. Consider the below exchange. I had seen the picture of a Nigerian politician; he used to look athletic but is now bloated; he looked like a pregnant woman. There is evidence that fat folks tend to have cardiovascular diseases, such as heart attack and stroke and some die from them. The only way to avoid such diseases is to eat reasonably well and exercise regularly (genetic factors held constant). Every human being, given his height and size has ideal healthy weight. Based on my concern for the…
It is easy to talk in generalized terms about human beings tendency to escape to fantasy, religious and or psychotic. To make the phenomenon concrete I will build on my experience and talk about why people seek refuge in irrational philosophies. My consciousness is preoccupied with my bodily issues, especially after eating food. I am constantly thinking about how to improve my body, and make it less bothersome (I inherited a disorder of the mitochondria, cytochrome c oxidase deficiency; it causes me no end of physical issues). This preoccupation with bodily issues prevents my mind from becoming totally focused on…
(Still on the Dr. Ariyo affair) In the past, I went over the subject of paranoia, narcissism and antisocial behavior in Igbos. Apparently, folks have not listened. Let me take the opportunity of the Dr. Ariyo affair to restate what I said elsewhere. If you are an Igbo and you are inclined to argue with me may I suggest that you do this. Look in the phone book; see a clinical psychologist and book an appointment with him to perform psychological test battery on you (in the USA it would cost you about one thousand dollars for the tests). These…
Thursday, 18 June 2015 07:44

The Path to living peacefully

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Every behavior one engages in has a goal. One asks: what is the purpose of this behavior? In that light, one asks why are Igbos demonstrating in front of Dr. Ariyo's medical clinic in Dallas, Texas. If Igbos feel that he is, as they say, out to kill Igbos and as a medical doctor the only way he can accomplish that objective is for him to have Igbo patients, then Igbos stay away from his medical practice. I doubt that Igbos go to his office for medical help. Igbos probably go to other medical doctors for help. Therefore, the demonstration…
Thursday, 11 June 2015 16:38

There are no accidents in peoples behaviors

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Given the configuration of the child's inherited biological constitution and his early social experiences he must behave in a certain pattern and develop a certain personality (self-concept). Everything the person does is congruent with his biological and psychological nature; there are no accidents in what he does. Given my pained body I had to develop a personality that seeks avoidance from pain; I had to anticipate what could cause my body pain and avoid it. Thus, I tend to evaluate situations in advance to make sure that they do not cause me pain and if I anticipate that they would…
All human beings have biological, medical and social issues. Cumulatively, those issues make the human child to conclude that there is something the matter with his body and he rejects it. Having decided that his body is not good enough and rejected it the human child uses pure ideation, mentation, cognition to invent the type of person he wants to become; he posits an imaginary ideal, powerful self that he wants to become. The ideal self is a mental self and is not an actual self. If you want to fully understand what I am talking about then read books…
Look at your body and other people's bodies. What do you see? You see a body that is like the bodies of other animals. The human body is the same as the body of dogs and mosquitos. Like other animals bodies the human body needs food to sustain it and defecates and eventually dies and rots. There is simply nothing physical to make the human being seem different from animals and trees. If one looked at the human body alone one is tempted to treat people as one treats animals and trees: without awe and respect. On the other hand,…