Psychology

I came to an office and the door is open and I walked in; there were two people in the room, one behind the desk and another facing her; I tried to get the attention of the one behind the desk, to ask a question and then leave (she was bent, apparently, reading something on the desk); she looked up and said; don’t you see that I am in a meeting, could you comeback. I walked out of the room furious at her. I thought to myself: who the hell does she think that she is talking to me in…
Sunday, 14 September 2014 14:53

How to find happiness in an unhappy world

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Upon birth in the human body I felt very uncomfortable in body. My body was problematic due to its inherited disorders (cytochrome c oxidase deficiency, spondilolysis and mitral valve prolapse). I experienced life in body painfully and since I desired the opposite of pain, pleasure I rejected my body; by age six when I began schooling I was aware that I had rejected my body and desired an alternative better body. I used my mind and imagination to invent a different and better body (and by generalization I desired a better material world). I invented a different and better self,…
Reality is difficult for me/us to accept; I/we would rather that reality were to our liking, is what we want it to be. The truth is that reality is what it is and we either accept it or we deceive ourselves. What is reality? For our present purpose, reality is that the individual is exactly where he is supposed to be and doing exactly what he is supposed to be doing right now; he may be elsewhere tomorrow and doing something else and that is what he is supposed to be doing and be, tomorrow. There are no accidents in…
Tuesday, 09 September 2014 20:44

Imaginations, dreams and reality

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In June, 2014, I moved into a new apartment. At night there is weird, spooky and eerie sound that seems to emanate from the wall closest to the window in my bedroom and progresses to other parts of the apartment. It seems mysterious. What is causing the sound? I don’t know but want to know. I asked my girlfriend who was living with me what she thought about the sound (she too hears it) and she said that ghosts are walking in the apartment. I inquired about who lived in the apartment before I moved in and found out that…
Wednesday, 03 September 2014 01:46

Be who you are and you are okay

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Psychiatrists, psychologists and other mental health professionals have grand theories regarding the etiology of mental disorder. The cause of all mental disorders, be they psychoses, neuroses, personality disorders is as simple as this: the desire to be a better self. In childhood, the child sees his real self as not good enough, as not able to adapt to the exigencies of his physical and social world and wishes for a better self that could cope with that world that confronts him. That wished for better self in time morphs to desire for a superior self, a desire to be the…
Friday, 22 August 2014 04:00

Africans need psychotherapy

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Africans are always talking politics; if you listened to them talk politics you would think that they would govern their countries appropriately. To the contrary, all of black Africa is misgoverned. Bluntly put, at present Africans cannot govern their people correctly. This is largely due to the fact that most Africans live unexamined lives (which really are life not worth living). Clearly, to be able to properly govern their countries, Africans must have clearer understanding of their personalities and self-concepts. If they had the resources they ought to undergo psychotherapy. But the fact is that they do not have such…
Friday, 22 August 2014 03:58

What part of our minds produces our dreams?

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One thing is clear to me: I do not consciously produce my nightly dreams. A part of my mind that I am not conscious of apparently takes the events in my day life to produce my dreams. Consider: Recently, I moved into an apartment. In the night the apartment feels like someone is walking inside it; it usually begins on one side of my bed and proceed to the other side and then unto the bathroom and to the kitchen. This happens regularly at different times of the night so I suspected that there is something about the building to…
A popular cliché says that one should not malign the dead. In that light one should not say any bad thing about the death of Robin Williams. Be that as it may, as it became clear how the man died...by hanging, tying his neck between a door knob and closet knob and pulling...I ask myself what would make a man do such a dreadful thing to himself. I can think of many ways to kill one’s self that is not gruesome. For example, one could go buy a tablet of cyanide, lie on one’s bed, take it and in a…
Tuesday, 12 August 2014 19:19

On Robin Williams, depression and suicide

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Jerome: You wanted to hear what I thought is the cause of rich folks killing their selves, as exhibited by Robin Williams’ alleged suicide. I had not read material on why the rich commit suicide, nor have I heard that the rich commit suicide at a higher rate than the poor. Until I see evidence that the rich commit suicide more than ordinary people I will keep quiet on that subject. That been said, we know a few things about suicide. Suicide tends to occur more often in depressed persons. As I pointed out in my several writings on depression,…
From history we learned that there was an Arabic gentleman called Mohammad (570-632 AD) who started Islam in 610 AD and that by the time he died in 632 his religion and its followers had captured all of Arabia and a hundred years after his death his followers had taken all of the Middle East, North Africa, Spain and, indeed, parts of France before the Franks and their leader, the hammer of God, Charles Martel stopped them at Tours in 733 AD; we also learned that they reached the edges of China. In sum, we learned that Muslim Arabs established…
If you are on planet earth you have an ego self, a sense of being a separated self, separated from the whole self (also called God) and separated from other people. If you did not have an ego separated self you would not be on earth. Indeed, we can say that the earth is designed for those who want to experience separated self. Human beings live in bodies; their bodies give them a sense of boundaries, of being separated from other persons housed in different bodies. Everything on earth, such as the presence of space, time and matter is designed…
As a young person I had intense desire to understand who I am; that desire to know myself took me to the study of biology, philosophy, comparative religions and psychology. Having exhausted what those subjects had to teach me about me (see my papers on the biological determinants of behavior), I focused on folks from the same ethnic group as I am, Igbos. My feeling was that if I understand them I would understand me, for I was socialized to their ethnic culture. This raises the question of whether each ethnic group has a personality, that is, ascertainable habitual patterns…
Psychology as a formal field of study made its debut a little over a hundred years ago. Like everything new under the sun, people looked to psychology with much hope. People had much expectation from it; they wanted it to enable them not only understand human beings but to make them perfect. Alas, like everything else psychology has its shortcomings. As ever, human beings remain a mystery to themselves and no field of study really has understood them; indeed, it seems that no human effort would ever understand who human beings are? Who exactly are we, where did we come…
What is called psychology, the stuff taught at American and European universities is nothing more than Western perspective on human beings. It is not the science of human beings, as its purveyors present it to be. The East has its own perspective on human beings; that, too, is particularistic, is rooted in the East and is by no means a universal science of human beings. It follows that we are yet to figure out a science of who human beings are. If one rejects Western psychology or more accurately take from it what seems objective and take from the East…
This paper briefly explicated the respective philosophies and psychologies of the Western and Eastern worlds. It says that those philosophies underlie what Europeans and Asians do; it further states that whereas human beings would like to think that their thinking and behaviors are independent of their cultural frame of references that, in fact, those shape everything they do. The paper explores a way to combine East and West and other approaches to phenomena to come up with a universal philosophy and psychology that serves all human beings regardless of where they come from. Psychotherapy: East And West, And Universal Ozodi…
One of my hobbies is subjecting me to dispassionate and objective self-analysis. I try to understand me and why I do what I do. This essay explicates my pursuit of perfection, shows its origin and shortcomings. Who are you, do you know? It is a good idea to take some time off and try to examine your actions and come to grips with why you do what you do; try to understand who you are and change what you can change and live with what you cannot change. The world is in a mess largely because many persons are really…
Spiritual science studies spiritual matters as we study matter without the need for belief in what is not proved as true. Spiritual matters are generally clouded in faith, belief, fear of God, fear of God punishing us if we ask questions, and magical thinking. All these fears are manmade and were done out of ignorance of what God is. What we must now do is subject the idea of God to pure reason, study it objectively and accept whatever we can prove as true and discard what is not true. All we need do is state and live the truth…
In personality structure I am avoidant. That means that I avoid people and keep to myself while wishing that I was with people. From early childhood I felt that as I am is not good enough and that if people came close enough to me that they would see that I am no good and reject me. I do not want people to reject me. To avoid people rejecting me I avoid being close to people. I avoid people and keep to myself. Even when I am with people I do so from emotional distance. I play roles with people;…
Observe human behavior; is there any part of it that is not designed to do that which provides for the welfare of the human body? Food, medications, clothes, shelter, transportation and everything we do practically is meant to provide for the welfare of our bodies. We enslave ourselves to doing meaningless jobs to obtain money to provide for our bodies' needs, and the needs of our offspring's bodies. FOOD AND SEX We enjoy our food; we enjoy sex. What are those? Food is part of body; sex is part of body. We literally live to provide for body and enjoy…
Saturday, 29 March 2014 17:03

Can there be a spiritual science?

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Can there be a spiritual science where we employ the scientific method to verify the existence of spirit? The scientific method is a methodological approach to phenomena that probably began with Galileo around 1610 AD and written on by such philosophers as Karl Popper (Conjectures and refutations, the logic of scientific inquiry). It is a way of living that says that only what we can observe with our eyes and verify as there is there, and if possible experimented on in laboratories to make sure that what we observed can be replicated. It posits hypotheses about phenomena and only accepts…
Saturday, 22 March 2014 20:32

Why it is difficult to let go of idealism

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The idealist believes that the wish for idealistic goals is good for him and for all people and therefore pursues them in an obsessive compulsive manner. He does not seem aware that the desire for people to become what they are not: perfect, makes them miserable. He must therefore learn that the pursuit of idealism makes people miserable and, as such, must desist from doing so and accept people as they are, imperfect. WHY IT IS DIFFICULT TO LET GO OF IDEALISTIC EGO Ozodi Osuji Are you an idealist? And what does that mean to you? I am an idealist;…
We are not victims unto whom what we do not want to experience happen; whatever we are currently experiencing is what we want to experience; what we asked for and got. Nothing can happen to a son of God that he did not ask for. If it were possible for what one does not want to experience to happen to one science is correct in asserting that chance, accidents and randomness determines what happens to us; there is no God if accidents can happen to us. If there is God and he is just only what we ask for can…
Wednesday, 19 March 2014 14:11

I change my mind on homosexuals

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Homosexuality is one of those practices that my mind could not understand. When I first encountered it, in a New York City train station, I was repulsed by what I saw. I had gone to use the bathroom and saw a man sticking his penis into another man’s anus. Thereafter, I believed that homosexuality is an illness. On the other hand, the homosexuals I see in real life do not seem any different from what folks call normal people. They are just like normal persons. Some of them have personality disorders and a few have mental disorders, but probably not…
Sunday, 16 March 2014 22:40

God and the story of M

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When we assert our egos separation from people we live in anxiety. Consider my ex friend, M As an atheist she denied her spirit nature and believes that she is only body hence tries to unify with other people through her body (she sees other people as only bodies). She is full of grievances and does not forgive any one she thinks wronged her. That makes her feel even more anxious and fearful that those she holds grudges against may harm her. Feeling threatened by people she has a strong need to run to some people who would accept her…
This morning it dawned on me that whenever I have been angry in my life I had perceived other people doing something that I felt belittled me. I had noticed been treated disrespectfully and reacted with anger. In anger I tried to let the other persons see that I am a big and important self that no one dared treat as if I am nobody. I have even boasted of being very important when treated very shabbily. It occurred to me that if I did not desire a big and important self that whatever it is other folks talked about…