Psychology

Please perform this little experiment. The next time you go to one of those Nigerian meetings try to get there early. Place a small amount of money, say, ten dollars, in a wallet (you can buy a cheap wallet at Walmart) and leave the wallet on a table. Stay away from the wallet and watch Nigerians as they enter the room. The chances are that 90% or more of Nigerians, if they think that nobody is watching them, would take the wallet. May be, ten percent, that is, one out of ten Nigerians would ask if someone left the wallet…
As I look back at my father’s life all I can say is that he did his best under the circumstances he found his self. In childhood the man had physical (medical) issues; those issues made life painful for him and as a result he rejected his body and posited an idealized, perfect and powerful self. From about age five onwards he embarked on trying to become the wished for but imaginary ideal self. ((Karen Horney (1950). Neurosis and Human Growth. New York: W. W. Norton, 1950)). He invented idealized standards for the ideal self and used them to judge…
Saturday, 14 March 2015 15:41

Are you always looking for a job?

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(Lack of commitment to a given profession) Ozodi Osuji Recently, it dawned on me that I had not fully committed to any vocation, profession or career. Even when I was at the top of a field as the director of mental health agencies I was still looking for other types of jobs. The reason I was always looking for jobs is that I had not fully committed to a particular profession and staked my life on it. I was, as it were, vacillating, fence sitting and wishy-washy. As Goethe said, when a person commits to doing something he finds right…
I have a need to explain why things happen to me as they do; I either take blame for the things that happen to me and feel depressed or blame other people and feel paranoid. By the way, I am also talking about you, the reader; if you blame yourself for your issues you run the risk of becoming depressed and if you blame other people for your problems you run the risk of becoming paranoid. I use me as an example to make my essays concrete and less abstract and hypothetical. Lately, I have been asking: is there an…
Thursday, 12 March 2015 18:11

Mental Health and other matters

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The normal person is at home in his body and this world. He sees his or her body as good; he employs such adjectives as beautiful, handsome and gorgeous in referring to his or her body. That is to say that he accepts his body and is comfortable with it. The neurotic person, on the other hand, is not comfortable in his body. He sees his body as not good enough and rejects it. Having rejected the real he uses his imagination, thinking to construct an ideal body and self. He posits an ideal, perfect body and self. Thereafter, he…
If you are teaching people to live from their real selves you must have clarity on what the real self is. The real self is not the neurotic self, it is not the pursuit of idealized self that gives folks anxiety, anger, depression, paranoia, mania and other mental disorders; one must completely give up the pursuit of the ideal, perfect self. The real self is part of formless unified spirit self, aka God. In its true state it is perfect love and loves all people. Whereas the real self ultimately is spirit, in the here and now world the real…
Saturday, 28 February 2015 05:18

Live the changed character you are asking for

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I have studied myself for many years. I now know that in childhood, due to my problematic body I rejected my body and real self and posited an ideal self and try to attain that imaginary ideal self. In psychoanalytic terms, I developed a neurotic life style (see Alfred Adler and Karen Horney’s psychoanalysis). Biological factors played a role in my positing the ideal self; I had biological issues that made me see my body as not good enough hence reject it and wish for a better body and self. Social factors also played a role in the rejection of…
Friday, 27 February 2015 05:26

For your own good do not put any one down!

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Why would you want to make another human being feel bad about his self, to have low self-esteem? Just think about it. To live people must value their selves; one must value one’s self to work to earn food, clothes and shelter for one’s survival. If one does not value one’s self why would one work to obtain the means for one’s survival? The condition of living is such that no one can survive without working for his daily bread and to do so one must like one’s self. If one hates one’s self why would one work to support…
If you have psychological skills you quickly pick up people’s personality and behavior styles. If you pay a bit more attention to them you observe whether they have personality disorders (many persons do) and or mental disorders (very few persons do). If you notice the pattern of their behaviors and can see how problematic they are you are tempted to tell them about them. If you do you have just lost their company. If they were friends they would be friends no more; if they were acquaintances they would not care to relate to you anymore; if they are family…
Here is the bottom line: no matter how much I try, I do not know what the other person is thinking. I can look at his face and body posture and try to draw conclusions about what he is thinking but the fact is that I am not a mind reader and do not know what he is thinking. It is therefore idiotic to say that I know what the other guy is thinking. The best thing to do is to assume that I do not know what the other guy and all the people I meet are thinking about…
The concept of post-traumatic stress disorder, PTSD (APA, 2013) implies that the trauma is now over and the individual still experiences stress resulting from it. I do not have post-traumatic stress disorder; I have continuous traumatic stress disorder, CTSD. The nature of my body makes it respond to environmental issues with on-going trauma and stress. My body feels continually stressed, tense and anxious. This is strictly biological and environmental in causation. It is however compounded by the psychological. In childhood, given the trauma and stress my body felt I used my mind to construct an idealized self that is not…
Saturday, 07 February 2015 23:26

Is there some good in arab muslim terrorism?

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Arab Muslim Cutthroats Remind Westerners That They Are Mere Human Animals Ozodi Osuji I am always looking for some good in every event and situation. In that light I have been asking myself if there is some good in the phenomenon of Arab Muslims cutting the throats of Westerners, specifically Europeans and White Americans. Can any good come out of this barbarism? Interestingly, there seem to be some good in this Arab Muslim savagery. Civilization works in such a manner that those at its apogee forget that they are mere animals that anyone can kill, pretty much as we can…
Thursday, 05 February 2015 21:41

The pursuit of ideal self and power and neurosis

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In childhood if you have medical disorders that threaten your life and made you (and still do so now) feel at the door of death, you want to live; you posit an idealized powerful self that if you were to become him you would have the power to overcome all obstacles on your path. That self is a magical, powerful self that enables you to banish all the issues of life. It is not your real self for no human being is powerful and ideal; it is a wished for self. Having posited it and conferred it with magical powers…
Thursday, 01 January 2015 04:11

On a new beginning

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Every year we make resolutions for the New Year. Here is my resolution for the New Year. I am going to become a new man. By that I mean that I am going to live what A course in miracles teaches. The book is asking us to become new men and wants to take us to living in the Christian notion of New Jerusalem/New Israel (in its language, real world, gate of heaven, happy dream), a kingdom ruled by Christ (ruled by love). My old self lived from the ego; the new self-lives from love (the Holy Spirit); my new…
Yesterday, in talking about changing our thinking and beliefs to change our lives I noted that those who write on this subject generally take into account sociological causation of our thinking disorders but ignore the role played by physiological and existential issues in the etiology of thinking disorders. The observations below present instances where medical issues caused folks to develop thinking and personality issues. To correct our thinking issues we have to understand our physiological issues and correct them. Until the biological and existential components of personality are fully addressed we cannot change folk’s personalities. Hypersensitivity Disorder (Allergy) And The…
Saturday, 20 December 2014 05:14

Change your beliefs change your life

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Social Psychological Explanation Of Thinking Many of those who write on how to change your thinking to change your life attribute most of what is wrong with folks thinking patterns to social causation. For example, if one has low self-esteem they see it as a result of having been criticized by ones parents and or significant others while one is growing up. If you fear rejection they attribute it to been rejected by your significant others; if you fear criticism they attribute it to your significant others; if you have negative pattern of thinking they attribute it to how you…
Thursday, 11 December 2014 07:22

Existential Psychotherapy for Africans

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PURPOSE This paper was originally written for an Igbo-Nigerian who presented with paranoid personality disorder; the purpose was to help him learn about his personality issues and heal them. Whereas the paper was originally meant for a particular person, clearly other persons have similar issues as he does and could learn and heal them from reading this paper; they will learn about existential psychotherapy, a therapeutic method that I believe is particularly suited for adult human beings. This paper will eventually be published in a professional journal. Existential psychotherapy for africans Ozodi Osuji I like existential psychology and its applied…
Thursday, 04 December 2014 03:26

Are there racial differences?

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Are there differences in the races of mankind? This question must be answered conclusively for not doing so allows misguided persons to claim that their so-called race is superior to other races. Human beings are animals that consciously know that they are composed of bodies and as such must die and rot and smell worse than feces. The reality of their looming and inevitable death leads them to feel inadequate and interior. They seek to compensate and convince themselves that they have worth. One way to do so is to feel superior to other persons. Thus, everywhere human beings are…
Thursday, 04 December 2014 03:24

The dream of bondage, escape and freedom

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In the dream, I and several other persons were held hostages, prisoners in an upstairs part of a huge house. I saw a pole from the downstairs to the upstairs and slid down it, expecting the prison guards to shoot me. I ran around the downstairs looking for a door from which to run out of the building and saw a glassy windowed area and thought that I ought to break it and run out. Then I saw a door and the ambience looked like an office and well-dressed young executives were entering the building through the door. One of…
Thursday, 04 December 2014 03:22

We should never minimize the human mind

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We are often tempted to deny the power of the human mind or minimize it. One way we minimize the mind is to say that it is epiphenomenal, is the product of the brain’s configuration, the permutation of atoms in our brains; we say so even though all of neuroscience has not done more than show how messages are transmitted from one brain cell, neuron to another but has not shown how thinking is done. How do we conceptualize things; how does the brain produce dreams while we sleep? These more serious issues have not been understood by science. In…
What does it mean to say that someone is mature? To be mature is to realize and accept that every person at any moment in time is being his ego true self and is doing what his ego and body nature makes him do and is where his nature placed him to be and receiving the consequences his nature made him receive. What is immaturity? It is to see people as they are, behave as they do and believe that they ought to behave differently, be better, perfect and judge them with perfectionistic standards and criticize them and find them…
Tuesday, 18 November 2014 01:27

Changing maladaptive thinking patterns

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Some patterns of thinking and consequent behaving can cause you more headache than others. For example, if you posit a big self and think and behave from that grandiose self you are going to feel frustrated from not attaining the goals of the big self. You will feel depressed from not becoming the ideal and perfect self. You will feel paranoid when you act as if you are the big self and expect other people to treat you as it and feel angry that they didn’t treat you as it. You probably posited the big self in childhood when you…
One posits a self-concept and a self-image and defends them. One is defending an imaginary idea of who one thinks that one is that one is, in fact, not. Who one is, in fact, one does not know; if one knew the real self-one would not defend it for the real does not need defense to be real; only the unreal needs to be defended to seem real in ones awareness while it is still unreal. In my case, I posited an idealistic self-concept and self-image. My self-concept wants to change me, change other people and change the world and…
Saturday, 01 November 2014 17:20

Personality is the defense of the separated self

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The term personality means the individual’s habitual pattern of responding to stimuli from his environment (physical and social environment); it is his pattern of behaving. If a behavior pattern is described most people can decide which of their friends behave as such. By Adolescence most human beings have established patterns of behavior, personalities. Most people have normal-neurotic personalities but some have abnormal personalities. Those with personality disorders behave in such a manner that they have conflicts with other persons. Contemporary psychiatry recognizes ten personality disorders: paranoid, schizoid, schizotypal, narcissistic, histrionic, borderline, anti-social, avoidant, and dependent, obsessive compulsive and passive aggressive.…
Thursday, 23 October 2014 15:23

Biology is fate

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The Individual’s Personality Is The Product Of His Biology Ozodi Osuji I will begin this paper by explaining certain medical terms; I do so because they bear on the thesis of the paper that biology determines personality. CYTOCHROME OXIDASE This is an enzyme involved in cellular oxidation; it takes electrons from cytochrome and joins it to oxygen and then activates the uniting of oxygen and hydrogen to form water. The electron returns to the cytochrome since the enzyme does not change from its catalyzing function. In cytochrome oxidase deficiency (COX) the enzyme is mal-functioning and as a result the individual…