Psychology

The purpose of psychotherapy is to heal the therapist. This is, of course, not how therapists see themselves. They see themselves as there to heal their patients. Actually, the opposite is the truth. Their patients are there to heal them. Their patients present human psychological issues in a magnified form for them to see them clearly and understand the damages they do to people. Generally, therapists want to heal their patients of their issues. But that is not the immediate thing that they need to do. They need to learn from their patients and first heal themselves. When they are…
Tuesday, 01 December 2015 07:39

The End of my Idealism

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I have written books on leadership yet I have not really behaved like a leader. Why? Leaders have realistic goals, goals dictated by the time and place they live in, whereas my goals tended to be idealistic, unrealistic and unachievable. An African leader is dealing with primitive people and must not aim at transforming them or Africa to what took the West over two thousand years to accomplish. To just build a third rate university in Africa is all African leaders can do in their present time and place in history (it will take several hundred years before the glorified…
Many children do not like their parents telling them what to do; such children generally also do not like adults to tell them what to do; they also do not like anyone who seems in social authority to tell them what to do. Thus, they do not like teachers, church ministers and police and government officials to tell them what to do. Whenever they hear what to them seems like an adult telling them what to do, without thinking through what that person says, for obviously sometimes other folks tell us what to do that is good for us, such…
Sunday, 22 November 2015 21:44

Is creativity based on depression?

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Do you listen to music? I do all the time. In fact, right now ( 7 AM, Sunday, November 22, 2015), as I am in front of my computer typing this essay the local classical music radio station is offering its usual Sunday morning faire of choral music. I enjoy music and often wonder whether I can live without classical music? Musicians produce beautiful sound that gives human beings joy. But are those who give us such joy, musicians' always happy people? I have not talked to many musicians to be able to make a categorical statement about who they…
Dr. R.O Is Not A Man Of God; He Is An Egotist Dr. R.O is not a man of God; he is not God enlightened. He is still in ego. How? He still lives in fear; to live in fear is sign that one is not living in God. How do I know so? He said that in the mid-1980s he wrote a book that would replace the holy books of the world's religions and felt that it would so alienate the leaders of the religions of the world that they would come after him and kill him. To avoid…
In The West If You Are Psychotic You Become The Guest Of Psychiatrists; In The Arab World If You Are Psychotic You Become A Disciple Of Jihadist Mullahs In the West if you are suicidal and homicidal (generally found in some depressed persons) you go to psychiatrists and they give you psychotropic medications and make you their patient, follower for life (for you must be on medications for life since there is no cure for mental disorders). In the Arab world if you are suicidal and homicidal you go to Islamic jihadists and they make you their disciple for life…
Thursday, 12 November 2015 07:16

Happiness is forgetting your self

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HAPPINESS IS FORGETTING YOUR SELF CONCEPT, EGO; DOING SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU FORGET YOUR SELF AWARENESS Ozodi Osuji Please ask yourself this question: when are you happiest? Here is my own answer. If I think about when I am happy it is always when I am doing something that makes me forget my self (self-concept, ego, body). This means that when I remember my real-self, son of God I am happy. To be aware of my ego, to think of my separated ego self and body is to be unhappy. When I am committed to a vocation, doing which I…
On October 24, 2015 I was in my room, door locked and reading. I heard a knock on the front door and assumed that since my girlfriend, Julia was in the living room that she would get the door. She did. Subsequently, I heard her talking to another woman. The woman's voice sounded like my friend, Mini Card. I felt obliged to come out and investigate. It was Mini, alright. Mini said that she had tried calling the phone number she has for me and could not reach me and decided to come to my place to tell me what…
Sunday, 25 October 2015 22:53

Nigerian narcissistic exhibitions at Facebook

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Lately, I have been invited by many Nigerians to become their friends on Facebook and I accepted and I invited some to become my friends. Thus, these days when I visit Facebook I see many Nigerian faces there. I began to notice a pattern. The Nigerians are always uploading their pictures. Just about every day when I visit Facebook some Nigerians, especially the women have uploaded practically every picture they took that week on the social media. Often, some of them upload pictures taken years and years ago. I see their pictures, their children's pictures, their parents' pictures and so…
Wednesday, 30 September 2015 03:13

Understand your dreams and understand your self

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Dreams Are Critical In Understanding And Changing Our Personalities Ozodi Osuji On Sunday, September 27, 2015 I attended a workshop titled: Night vision or Nightmare. The presenter, Kaleem Nurridin said that our dreams teach us something about us and that our nightmarish dreams dramatically teach us about who we are. He said that if we pay attention to our nightmarish dreams and understand them that we would have understood the key issues in our lives. Whereas he did not use Sigmund Freud’s terms regarding how dreams are royal roads to understanding the human unconscious mind, the presenter, who approached his…
Sunday, 27 September 2015 20:17

On unrealistic idealism

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Generally, human beings consider the pursuit of ideals a good thing; it is believed that people and their society are improved when they seek mentally derived ideals. Where there are no ideals to work towards it is believed that people stagnate and decay. There is some truth to the need for ideals. However, it is also true that too much of a good thing can be bad for you. In some instances the pursuit of ideals becomes obsessive hence an unrealistic goal. In studying me I found that I am seeking unrealistic ideals and in doing so created problems for…
Friday, 25 September 2015 02:41

To be free black people must free white people

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In America the political system is controlled by white folks. Apparently, one of the political system's unwritten desires is to place as many black folks in jails and prisons as is possible. As we speak, one out of every four black men under age twenty four is either in jails, prisons or is supervised by parole and probation officers. White folks are jailing black folks at an incredible rate, preventing them from having jobs and preventing them from participating in the politics of the country, for if you are a felon you cannot participate in American politics. According to our…
Friday, 18 September 2015 05:37

From paranoia to son of God; from ego to Christ

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The term paranoia derives from Greek. The Greeks called mental illness paranoia. Literally, the term means that one is besides ones real self; one is who one is not in fact. The paranoid person has a real self but ignores it and acts as somebody else. Generally, he has a real self that he believes is inadequate and inferior and does not like that self and figures that there is an alternative self, a big, powerful, important self and strives to be that imaginary but wished for powerful self. The process begins in childhood when the child feels inadequate and…
Lesson 35 And Its Implication For Africans This lesson said that it does not matter whether you have positive opinion (inflated opinions of who you are, such as believe yourself very bright, wealthy and powerful) or have negative opinion of yourself (such as see yourself in a depressed light, see you as no good and a failure); it says that whether you see you in positive or negative light is irrelevant. The opinion you have of you now is an image based on your experience in the world. The world is an illusion and does not exist, literally, not figuratively.…
Monday, 07 September 2015 21:51

Transformation of character

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Transformation Of Character: From Ego To Christ; From Anger To Peace Ozodi Osuji I was perpetually angry. Why was I so? In childhood my pained and weak body (I was born with a disorder of the mitochondria) made me feel like the world is attacking me and trying to snuff me out, kill me. I felt totally vulnerable and defenseless. I felt like no human being or God was protecting me. I asked: how do I go about surviving in a world that causes me pain and nobody is protecting me? (Please note that I am trying to reconstruct the…
If you have anger issue this essay might help you understand and manage it. I purposely personalized it to help you personalize your anger so as to deal with it rather than intellectualize it and not work on it at the emotional level where it emanates. Please note the term manage; I did not say cured or healed; this is because as long as one lives in body and ego one will have aspirations, and not attaining those goals generates anger in one; all that one can do is manage one's anger, it is not easy to eliminate it. Even…
Being Angry At The White Man Does Not Solve Africans Problems Ozodi Osuji ANGER DEFINED Generally, a human being feels angry when he feels that a goal or objective he desires attainment of is frustrated; when a person desires something and does not get it and believes that he knows what prevents him from getting it he feels angry at that obstacle. Anger is energy designed to help the individual to remove the obstacle on his path to goal attainment. Anger is expressed towards things that one feels threatens one's life and the means for sustaining one's life. If one…
Wednesday, 26 August 2015 22:21

From seeing is believing to believing is seeing

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Hitherto, my philosophy is that what I see with my physical eyes is what exists; that is, seeing is believing. I assumed that most people have a similar philosophy? I see what seem to me a world outside me, a world that I did not seem to make and a world that I do not even understand. Everything in me tells me that the world is outside me. I see a physical universe composed of galaxies, stars, planets, trees, animals, people and the things we see in our immediate environment, such as houses, cars, trains, planes, computers, telephones, internets, etc.…
Friday, 31 July 2015 01:23

Understanding paranoid prophets better

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I studied the life style of Ramakrishna and Ramana Maharshi, two of India’s supposed God realized persons. From what I read I gathered that God realized persons have given up their attachment to their egos and stopped identifying with their bodies and see themselves as one with God. Because they have relinquished their egos they tend to be calm and peaceful and do not respond egoistically as ordinary people do when they feel their egos attacked. If a normal proud person feels his prideful ego pricked he reacts with anger but the self-realized person is not proud and would not…
Delusion disorder is belief in what is not true as true. For example, a weak and powerless feeling person may come to believe that he is as powerful as God is supposed to be. Henceforth, he sees his self as God or any other person that is supposedly powerful, such as Hitler, Napoleon and so on. The deluded person uses the object of his belief to mask his underlying sense of powerlessness and unimportance. In psychoanalytic categories he feels inferior and compensates with false sense of power and superiority (CF Alfred Adler’s individual psychology and Karen Horney’s neurosis as pursuit…
A Public Letter to Dr. JA Nigerians Tolerate White Folks Abuse But Displace Their Anger To Other Nigerians Ozodi Osuji Psychoanalysis has what it calls ego defense mechanisms; these (repression, suppression, denial, projection, displacement, rationalization, sublimation, reaction-formation, fantasy, avoidance, fear, anger, guilt, shame and so on) are ways we human beings defend our egos (the ego is one’s sense of separated self). One such ego defense mechanism is called displacement of anger. It works as follows. You have a job. You need that job to make a living, to earn money to pay your bills. Without a job you are…
Wednesday, 15 July 2015 01:09

8 Things You Should Stop Apologizing For

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I have done a lot of unnecessary apologizing in my youth when I misunderstood the Bible's "pride goes before a fall" injunction, when I thought I needed to please persons who mattered the least in my universe but who I thought were pulling the strings that made my world rotate on its axis. While I respect every co-tenant who shares the earth with me and may have a thing or two I might learn from, I have come to the realization that I am all I've got, and as William Ernest Henley wrote in the poem Out of the Night…
This write up is based on a dream I had this morning. In the dream I went to a fellow's house; in the middle of his room were millions of dollars lying everywhere; he was stuffing some of the money into large manila envelopes but did not have enough envelops. I undertook to go to my apartment and get more envelops for him. I got to my place and searched my cabinet's drawers and could not find the envelopes that I thought were there. I looked across from my door and saw an open door to another apartment and went…
Each human being has a self-concept; he believes that that conceptual self is who he is; he is mindful of how other people treat it; if they like it he feels fine and if they don't he feels bad; he defends that self for he believes that it is who he is. If the self-concept is real would it need to be defended? The real should not need to be defended to be real! The fact that the self-concept is defended means that it is not real; because it is not real if the self-concept is not defended it disappears.…
In truth people are part of unified spirit self, aka God and live in heaven. They denied their true status and now seem separated from God and each other and live in the world of separation. They make their separated living seem real by housing themselves in bodies and living in space and time. The world of separation, human society is a false world, it is a deluded world. Thus, human societies are organized delusional states where false selves, egos organize themselves with their delusional laws. This is what every human society is. I learned this lesson from observing my…