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The neurotic basis of false idealism

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Idealism Is Rooted In Self Hate, Hate Of The Real And Desire For The Imaginary Ideal

Ozodi Osuji

Idealism is rooted in self-hate, in hatred of one's body and other people's bodies, hatred of the human physical reality and desire for an imaginary, nonphysical reality.

This rejection and hatred of the physical self is rooted in the fact that our bodies and attendant egos are always imperfect.

The mentally constructed self not being in body can be imagined as ideal and perfect but if it were to live in body it, too, would be imperfect. Body makes the self-imperfect.

The desired nonphysical, ideal alternative self is used to judge the imperfect ego and body self and crucify them because they are not perfect.

The ego and body will die, rot and disappear from existence so one hates them and yearns for imaginary ideal and permanent self that cannot materialize. One uses a fictional ideal self to judge the real and make life miserable for one's self and people for not being ideal.

It is true that body is nothing and ego is nothing and whatever we do in body and ego is nothing, has not taken place and, as such, is neither good nor bad and does not detract from our real self.  The real self is spirit, eternal and changeless and nothing we do at the ego-body level detracts from its value.

The fact that body and ego is nothing is the more need to love people in bodies, accept their egos body knowing that it is nothing. Knowing that what is done in ego and body, such as sex, is nothing and has not been done in spirit is the more reason to love them despite what they do with their bodies.

Acceptance of people's egos and bodies and what they do with bodies, such as sex, makes them to feel good about themselves. People feel bad when you compare them to imaginary ideals.

Sex is nothing; it is done in bodies and since body does not exist has not been done, the son of God remains his real self which is non bodily self. Because sex is nothing you must love your sexual partner despite the nothingness of the sexual activity.

If you must have pity then have pithy for the children of God who identify with body, nothing and believe that it is who they are and enjoy sex, nothingness, as normal persons do.

If you love people despite their nothing body and sex they feel happy, but the moment you judge them with ideal standards that do not exist you have made them unhappy and have made you unhappy and you would have an unhappy household (world).

Accept and love you and all people as they are, their physical and psychological disabilities notwithstanding, and they will bend over backwards to help you.  An example was when my friend Rodney felt that because I totally accepted him despite his disabilities (he is on wheelchair from muscular dystrophy) gave me his valuable goods! I was embarrassed by his incredible gifts.  He gave them to me because he felt that I, a college professor, overlooked his physical disabilities and treated him as my equal, and treated him with total love and respect. He is used to people, because of his physical disabilities, looking down on him (he was an architect before MD paralyzed him).

Doors will open for you if you love humanity and treat all people with respect despite their body and ego issues and bad behaviors. I remember when I decided to love black Americans without judgement. One of them, my friend, Dr. Brown offered me use of his 160 acres of land and gave me an office suit which he paid for monthly (rent was about $2000 a month!).

One must love white Americans despite their ego behaviors.  While still young I realized that white Americans do their evil things because they are like children. Only foolish children can afford to maltreat other human beings as white racists do.

If you are mature you realize that the only worthy treatment a human being, black or white, man or woman deserves is love and respect and you love all of them despite what they do with their egos and bodies.

One must accept white folks and gradually teach them more adult behaviors, love and respect for all people; left to themselves they are not adults but children with no clue that love and giving is the best lived life.

Capitalism has problems and white Americans do not see them.  A mixed capitalist and socialist economy is the way to go for mankind but white Americans do not see it hence keep harping on the exploitative side of capitalism.

Capitalism is very productive but it leads to a few becoming rich and the many poor hence will always generate social conflicts. The solution is to still encourage capitalism but tax the rich and use that money to give the poor free education at all levels, university included and publicly paid health insurance.

Under no circumstances should people be given free money as in welfare checks; give all people work but not free money; free money makes people lazy and we do not want lazy people.


In childhood, due to medical reasons I rejected my body and ego and embarked on pursuing an idealized self. I tended to equate that imaginary ideal self with White selves and Western civilization.

I tend to judge me and black folks in general with the imaginary ideal standards that I projected to the West (I invented those standards and values for in real life white folks are not different from black folks).

Having judged me and black folk with imaginary ideal Western standards I make life miserable for me and black people.

The goal is for me to accept me, black people and all human beings without judging them with fictional ideal selves and standards.

I must accept and love all people despite their bodies, egos and behaviors; in doing so I attain peace of mind.


The theme of this essay is that the pursuit of idealized self is based on rejection of one's physical body and the ego. One rejects one's body and ego and posits mentally generated ideal, alternatives to them and tries to become them.

It is impossible to while living in body to be an ideal, perfect self.

The pursuit of the ideal, perfect self leads one to criticizing one's self and other people and in so doing making one and people miserable.

To make one's self happy and peaceful one must accept ones ego and body as they are and accept other people's egos and bodies as they are and not compare them to imaginary idealized selves.

There is a spiritual self, a self that is not in body and is apart from the ego (although it does take light body form) but that spirit self is not the present self that one is aware of.

One is currently a self in body and ought to love and respect that ego and body self. As for the spirit self, it is eternal and changeless and does not need one to do anything about it.

The task before one on earth is to love ones ego and body and love other people's egos and bodies in an unconditionally positive manner (rejecting anti-social behaviors, of course);  one's and other peoples spirit self is forever in love and there is nothing that one can do to make it to not live in love.

Ozodi Osuji

July 31, 2016

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Ozodi Osuji Ph.D

Ozodi Thomas Osuji is from Imo State, Nigeria. He obtained his PhD from UCLA. He taught at a couple of Universities and decided to go back to school and study psychology. Thereafter, he worked in the mental health field and was the Executive Director of two mental health agencies. He subsequently left the mental health environment with the goal of being less influenced by others perspectives, so as to be able to think for himself and synthesize Western, Asian and African perspectives on phenomena. Dr Osuji’s goal is to provide us with a unique perspective, one that is not strictly Western or African but a synthesis of both. Dr Osuji teaches, writes and consults on leadership, management, politics, psychology and religions. Dr Osuji is married and has three children; he lives at Anchorage, Alaska, USA.

He can be reached at: (907) 310-8176