Wednesday, 20 July 2016 22:37

I have a love-hate relationship with white folks

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I LOVE SCIENCE AND TECHNOLOGY AND BY ASSOCIATION THOSE WHO PROPAGATE THEM

I love what white folks represent, scientific civilization. As I see it, science is the best thing that has happened to human beings. I love those who represent science and technology, white folks.

As it were, because of their embrace of science I place white folks on a pedestal and want to be like them.

RACISM

On the other hand, my personal psychology wants to be important and powerful and therefore detest anyone who looks down on me. If you look down on me I could attack and destroy you.  White racists look down on black folks. I hate white folks looking down on me.

AMBIVALENCE

I know that Africans are so backward that it is not even funny. Africans have not even begun taking the first steps on the ladder to scientific civilization. They have contributed nothing to science and technology. I do not want to be like unscientific people; in fact, I do not like their company; what would I be talking to people about if they are not scientific?

Because of Africans backwardness I understand why many white folks look down on them. Yet, I do not want to be looked down on because I am African.

Thus, I have a love-hate, ambivalent relationship with white folks; because of what they represent, science, I admire them and yet hate them because of their racism that looks down on me.

I understand the reason behind racism. Instead of pretending that there is no reason underlying racism, what Africans need to do is stop being proud of their backwardness and work hard to become scientific and technological and generally modernized.

As long as Africa is backward no one is going to respect it. People respect those with knowledge not ignorant people. People want to be like scientists not like witch doctors.

I really do not like the nonsense called multiculturalism and cultural relativity; all cultures are not equal; cultures that promote science and technology are more advanced than cultures that see the moon as god and worship it and or treat women as nothing because their religion tells them to do so.

SELF UNDERSTANDING

One must examine one's self and understand who one is and what forces actuate one and not deny those forces or be unconscious of them.

In this vignette I made it clear what forces motivate me. In Alfred Adler's psychological categories, the exigencies of my biological and social life made me feel inadequate and I compensated with desire to seem adequate, powerful and superior. I do not like any human being born of woman, white or black, to even suggest that he is better than I am. If you try to seem better than I am I will do everything to take you down! That is my personal psychology.

Of course, I know that it is not healthy to be motivated to be powerful; I know that what is healthy is acceptance of the equality of all people, black and white.  Equality is ideal; however, I am talking reality here.

You ought to understand the forces driving you and come to terms with them. One must make changes where change is possible and live with what cannot be changed in one.

CONCLUSION

I hate that Africans are primitive; in fact, I am ashamed of it; I understand why those who are more scientifically and technologically advanced than Africans would look down on Africans; yet, I do not like to be looked down on.

If you are white and you look down on me I will literally tear you apart, yet, I admire what white people represent, science and technology.

In effect, I am ambivalent towards white folks.

And what are you? Do you even know who you are? An unexamined life is not worth living, said a white man, Socrates.

After self-understanding, knowing who your real self is, not the social persona that you present to other people to relate to, the healthy thing to do is love you, love other people, love black folks and love white folks. Love is mental health; hate is mental disorder.

A human being combines health and non-health in him. Have you seen a totally healthy person; are you totally healthy? Remember that we are here talking realism not idealism.

Ozodi Osuji

July 20, 2016

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Ozodi Osuji Ph.D

Ozodi Thomas Osuji is from Imo State, Nigeria. He obtained his PhD from UCLA. He taught at a couple of Universities and decided to go back to school and study psychology. Thereafter, he worked in the mental health field and was the Executive Director of two mental health agencies. He subsequently left the mental health environment with the goal of being less influenced by others perspectives, so as to be able to think for himself and synthesize Western, Asian and African perspectives on phenomena. Dr Osuji’s goal is to provide us with a unique perspective, one that is not strictly Western or African but a synthesis of both. Dr Osuji teaches, writes and consults on leadership, management, politics, psychology and religions. Dr Osuji is married and has three children; he lives at Anchorage, Alaska, USA.

He can be reached at: ozodiosuji@gmail.com (907) 310-8176