Saturday, 25 March 2017 17:07

Ending ones unhealthy neurotic dances

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From Ozodi Osuji's Daily Journal:

LIFE SHOULD NOT BE SICKNESS TO BE ENDURED

 

All my life, I have lived with constant stomach upset; that stomach pain is registered on my face; my face looks strained and has been that way all my life, this is no longer acceptable to me.

Sadly, this situation is so while I study and talk spirituality; apparently, spirituality does not help me straighten out my bodily issues.

Those who talk spirituality invariably die from the bodily issues they have and neglected to pay attention to. Jane Roberts, Helen Schucman, Kenneth Warpnick, Wayne Dyer, Jesus Christ, Gautama Buddha all died from physical issues.

Apparently, religion and spirituality is escape from physical reality.  Religions, Spirituality and their God do not heal any one's physical issues. Therefore, one should not look to them to heal one's physical issues; one should look to science and medical technology. Spirituality heals the mind not necessarily the body.

BUT HAVE I REALLY LIVED A SPIRITUAL LIFE?

I have not lived a day without ego and its fear hence have not practiced spirituality, if spirituality means living without ego and fear; the same goes for Helen, Kenneth, Jane, Rufus and others who claim to be spiritual persons; we all have egos hence have pride and fear.

If one has not transcended ones ego why then does one expect to be healed if healing means transcending the ego?

IF YOU TRANSCEND THE EGO YOU WILL NOT SEE THIS WORLD OF EGOS

If you are not in ego you are out of this world, for this world is a place of ego.  You will not even see this world if you awaken to your true state as the son of God.

You may identify with the Holy Spirit and see this world but know it as a nonsensical dream and ignore it.

YOU ARE NOT THE EGO OR HOLY SPIRIT

You, the son of God, are not the ego or Holy Spirit but can identify with either and live as such. Right now we, in the world of egos, identify with the ego and live as ego; we can also identify as the Holy Spirit and live as such, and see this world and overlook it.

If you live as the Holy Spirit and Christ you reclaim the power of God and can heal the minds  of those who asked to be healed by you, not those who did not ask you to heal them, for the sons of God have a right to be in hell, in ego, if they so choose.

PEOPLE WANT TO EXPERIENCE WHATEVER YOU DID TO THEM, AND YOU WANT TO EXPERIENCE WHATEVER THEY DID TO YOU, BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU SHOULD DO BAD THINGS TO THEM

People want to experience whatever you did to them, good or bad, and what you will do to them in the future; you also wanted to experience whatever people did to you in the past or will do to you in the future. However, that does not mean that you should do bad things to people; you may decide not to do to them what their ego personalities called on you to do to them.

All the women that I have dealt with in my entire life asked to experience my treatment of them but I could have chosen to overlook their call to experience victimized ego status (women attack men and then act as if they are victims should you counter attack them) and love them, not ego love but spiritual love.

The point is that one should not go about feeling guilty for what one did to people in the past but from now onwards should overlook what other people as egos ask one to do to them and simply be a passive figure in their dreams that they are egos and want to experience attacks by attacking each other (they will not attack one if one has transcended the ego).

WHAT IS HEALING?

HEALING IS LETTING GO OF ONES IDENTIFICATION WITH THE EGO;

MODERATING THE EGO IS NORMALCY NOT HEALING

If you are healed you have let go of your ego and no longer behave from the ego; you now live in peace and joy.

If you have not let go of your ego you are unhealed and therefore cannot heal another person, for to heal him is to get him to let go of his ego; if you retain your ego you are an unhealed healer and cannot get another person to let go of his ego.

PSYCHOTHERAPISTS AND PASTORS ARE UNHEALED HEALERS HENCE HEAL NO ONE!

Psychotherapists retain their egos and therefore are not healed; they cannot heal other people by getting them to let go of their egos.

So-called ministers of God retain their egos and therefore cannot heal other people by getting them to let go of their egos.

Only those who have let go of their egos can get other people to let go of their egos hence heal them.

In this world there is no one who has completely let go of his ego so there is no healed person in the extant world; therefore, there is no healer in the world today.

YOU CANNOT ASK OTHER PEOPLE TO RESPECT YOU IF YOU ARE NOT RESPECT WORTHY

The other day, my girlfriend of three years (apparently, she has come into money, we are talking real money, millions) inadvertently, told me that she is looking for a house, in the state where she lives, to buy. She told me this in passing, as an afterthought for she had been out with a girlfriend looking at houses.  She called me in the evening and I asked her what she has been doing with herself and she told me that she has been house hunting.  Apparently, she did not need my input into her decision making.

What this means is that she does not value my input into her behavior; it means that she does not respect or even love me.

Question: should she love and respect me and consult me before she does anything? The answer is no.

By the same token, I do not have to love or respect her or consult her before I do anything.  In this world the truth is that as one does to other people they inevitably do to one; she does not value my input and I do not have to value her input in doing anything.

My business is to overlook her behavior and not allow it to bother me; I leave her to dance her loveless dance and still see herself as a victim of men whereas she asks for the way she is treated cavalierly by men by not respecting them.

In my entire life I have never asked any human being, not even my parents for financial help and am not about to start doing so now. So, if it got into her head that I may ask her for money she is badly misinformed.

I must now let her go, for one should not be around a disrespectful woman. This is not an issue of power and control for I do not control anyone; I simply will not be around a person who disregards me in making critical decisions that supposedly affect me. If you are in a situation where you are not consulted before major decisions are made it damages your self-esteem and self-confidence, so I must pack it up and move on.  I will no longer pick up her phone calls. I end our unhealthy neurotic dance.

Ozodi Thomas Osuji

March 25, 2017

www.centerformindscience.org

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Ozodi Osuji Ph.D

Ozodi Thomas Osuji is from Imo State, Nigeria. He obtained his PhD from UCLA. He taught at a couple of Universities and decided to go back to school and study psychology. Thereafter, he worked in the mental health field and was the Executive Director of two mental health agencies. He subsequently left the mental health environment with the goal of being less influenced by others perspectives, so as to be able to think for himself and synthesize Western, Asian and African perspectives on phenomena. Dr Osuji’s goal is to provide us with a unique perspective, one that is not strictly Western or African but a synthesis of both. Dr Osuji teaches, writes and consults on leadership, management, politics, psychology and religions. Dr Osuji is married and has three children; he lives at Anchorage, Alaska, USA.

He can be reached at: ozodiosuji@gmail.com (907) 310-8176