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Body, Behavior And Personality Are One

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Building on self-observation, this paper says that our bodies determine our behaviors and personalities. It, however, postulates that there is another self apart from the human body and personality. It calls that other self the real-self. The real-self is part of what folks call God, what it calls Unified Spirit Self. The real self appears separated from the unified self and projects itself to a higher separated ego self that is in light body form, not in gross body and that higher ego self-projects itself to a lower ego self in gross body form (our earthly forms). On earth we are only aware of our lower ego self, the conscious self.  The higher ego self sits above the lower ego self-directing it (and the later sometimes opposing it hence intra-psyche conflict). Both the higher and lower ego selves (selves in forms, light and dense) are false self; the real self (which is formless) is the self that is part of unified spirit self, a formless self that no one on earth is aware of (a self that enlightened persons, avatars in meditations occasionally glean).

Body, Behavior And Personality Are One

(However, there is another self, the spirit self)

By Ozodi Thomas Osuji

When I was in elementary school and had to write something in class I did it very fast; I wanted to do it and get it over with as quickly as possible (dictation was my best subject at elementary school; I wrote so fast that before the teacher was done dictating I had already written down what he said, in my bad handwriting, making mistakes, of course; I type so fast that I can type what you say before you are done saying it).  The same attitude was carried over to all areas of my behavior. Whenever I did something I did it in a hurry; I wanted to complete it as quickly as possible and get out of doing it.  I wanted to get things done and stop doing them. In school I wanted to get schooling done as quickly as possible and get out of schooling. If you do things in a hurry you are bound to make mistakes and I make loads of them (this is especially so in writing; I do not like to read what I just wrote and generally have lots of mistakes in my writing).

In work I wanted to get the work done and get out of working.  During the summer of my first year at University (when I had my first real job) I obtained a job in a factory; I had to stand on my feet for eight hours doing that work. Two days later my legs were stiff and I could no longer stand up. Naturally, I quit the job. Although I needed money I could not do a job that I literally could not stand on my feet to do. I sought a job where I could sit down and do it, such as clerical work and that did not pay as much as factory work.

There is something in people that directs them to where they need to go and be; if what one overtly says one wants is not what ones higher self wants one would not get it.  In graduate school I was frustrated by the social sciences and concluded that they are not a science and moreover teach mostly what the gatekeepers of society want them to teach so as to maintain the present social structure.  In general, I was disappointed with what is called academia and really wanted out of it.  But having done the doctorate one was supposed to get a job in academia. Thus, I applied for teaching positions. I wanted a job but my mind was not in it. I was rejected by most of the schools I applied to. Finally, I obtained a teaching position and quickly left for I felt dead while doing it.

The salient point here is that if ones higher ego mind is not in what one’s lower ego mind wants to do and one seeks it out one would not get it or if one gets it won’t last in it.

After I got bored working in the mental health field (many folks would not be bored being the executive director of an agency, making good money, but I was) and tried to return to academia I noticed that despite my unusual combination of academic and managerial skills doors were closed to me. What was going on was that my higher self-wanted me to figure out what I want to do and go do it.

Therefore, one must first figure out who one is, what one’s interest and aptitude is and seek jobs in that area. If you just want a job for the sake of having a job your higher self would make sure that you would not obtain such job; doors would be closed to you by seeming other persons (employers) but actually by your higher self.

For me, much of what passes as work is of no interest.  If I do not identify with the work I am doing I will not do it, period.  I do not like to just kill time and call what I am doing work; it is either I like the work or I leave and stay idle.


When I walked long distances or ran (in college I ran every other day, at least, five miles each time) I noticed that my feet froze up and I would have to sit down for a long time to regain feelings in them.

Talking about sitting down, once I took a long distance bus ride from Portland, Oregon to San Francisco, California (to attend a professional conference) and at the end of it I could not get my feet to stand or walk; I eventually managed to get out of the Greyhound Bus and took a cab to my hotel room and laid down for several hours before I regained feelings in my legs.

Generally, sitting down for a long time pinches certain nerves and muscles in my legs and makes them become numb, feel lifeless; it takes stamping my feet on the floor to get feelings to return to them.

I used to drive long distances. I noticed that after driving for, say, four hours that the foot on the gas pedal would feel literally on fire, hot and I would stop to make it cool down before resuming driving. Apparently, electrical currents from the car passed into my legs. The wiring of my nerves is such that they pick up the electricity that the car generates.


My tendency to fear intimate contact with people, to keep a distance from people, to retain myself was actually caused by my body. The self-structure my body developed was so fragile that it feared that if it is close to other persons that they could destroy it so it keeps a watchful distance from people, has approach avoidance to them ( I have aspects of avoidant personality…fear of rejection, desire to be rejected). The point is clear: my body is very unusual. There are medical reasons for it; I was born with two serious genetic disorders, Cytochrome C Oxidase Deficiency and Spondilolysis.


My inability to do many physical things made me angry and fearful.   Anger generally is caused when the individual is frustrated; when he is pursuing a goal and sees obstacles on his path; anger is a product of disappointment of goal attainment. In my case, my desire to live a peaceful existence was frustrated by constant physical issues hence I felt angry. I especially feel angry at people who disappoint me.

You do not want to stand in my way when I am pursuing a goal I deem necessary; getting rid of you would mean nothing to me. For our present purposes, anger is biological in origin. (I am fully informed on the physiology of anger; the fight-flight aspect of it, the neurochemicals involved in it etc. but here is not the place to write about such technical matters.)

My biological issues made me develop wanting to do work as quickly as is possible and get over it and do nothing. My body was over tasked by the slightest physical activity and felt stressed and tense and did not want to do any physical work.  I want to do only work that does not overtask my body.

I remember when I stayed with my grandparents for a while. They would go to their farm and do farm work. They took me along with them and I tried working with them (as usual I worked very fast and was actually very good at the work) but gave up only after a few hours.  Thereafter, I put my feet down and refused to do any more farm work.

My fragile body simply could not handle physical work (my higher self always knew this fact hence it would refuse to do what it knew would harm my lower self and its body).  Grandmother and other relatives used to ask why an eight year old boy refused to go to farm with them (they were used to been obeyed by their grandchildren); they attributed my refusal to work to willfulness and stubbornness.

The good news was that they left me alone; physical labor was not for me. As for being willful and intransigent that I was and still am, but not for the reasons grandparents suspected; I insist on doing only what my body can do; if I had not avoided hard labor I would have died long ago.


I have an obsessive-compulsive desire to make things better; I see things as not good enough. This desire to change things and make them better is rooted in seeing my body as not good enough and wanting to change it and make it better; that is to say that my biology determined my idealism.

I see an ugly world and feel motivated to transform it to ideal, perfect world. I am an idealist.  This pursuit of alternative to what is, is rooted in my rejection of my pained and problematic body and desire for a better body hence my body determined my idealism.

Karen Horney (Neurosis and Human Growth. New York: W.W. Norton, 1950) calls self-rejection and pursuit of idealized-self neurotic behavior. The West has a tendency to pathologize what it has not fully understood. In my experience with those that the West calls neurotics’ one trait runs through their life styles: desire for idealized self and world and anxiety from not measuring to their mentally constructed ideals (so in that sense Horney is descriptively correct but her causal analysis is wrong).

Those Western psychiatrists call psychotics (schizophrenics, manic-depressives, deluded persons etc.) seem to have rejected their real selves and the real world and used their minds to construct fantasy alternative selves and worlds and live in them.

The rejection of one’s body is rooted in issues with that body. It is not the brain-chemistry that makes one reject one’s body; it is a problematic body that cannot cope with the tough world that forces the brain to see one’s body as not good and reject it and then seek a better alternative to it (and later generalize to seeking a better self and better world).

Western psychiatry went off the cliff when it gave biologically determined self-rejection and pursuit idealized- self a psychiatric name.  We should just give people descriptive names, such as idealists or realists, but not give them meaningless psychoanalytic terms like neurotics.

My biological issues caused my brain to develop the personality it developed for me.  My behavior hence personality is a product of my biological constitution.   My body led me to seek only the type of work it could do, intellectual work.

For our present purposes, the salient point is that my body determined my behaviors and a personality in a hurry to get things done and get them over with.  Biology determines human behaviors and personality. And this applies to all people; each person’s behaviors and personality is a product of his inherited body; social learning playing only minor role in the etiology of behavior and personality.

Having said that biology determines human behavior and personality, I still believe that there is another self that is not determined by the human body. I believe that human beings have another self behind body and personality.

Our ego selves are  our shadow selves (using Carl Jung’s term); we have another self, a spirit self that is not body and ego; I call that self our real self;  Christians call it Christ self or the Son of God. It has no name so call it whatever you like; it is characterized by awareness that it is one with all selves and with the entire creation and its creator; it is a loving self.


Helen Schucman’s book, A course in miracles says that body is nothing and in fact does not exist; it says that body (matter, space and time) exist only as in a dream.  Schucman (she was a Jewish professor of psychology at Columbia University, New York) says that at best body has neutral value for it can be used to live in the world of dreams without identifying with it; body can be used to communicate love to other children of God who believe that they are in bodies and are bodies.

A course in miracles says that since body does not exist and is a dream figure that it is nothing and that if one sees one’s self as body that one sees one’s self as nothing, as nonexistent.

The course says that we invented body (and space and time) to enable us seem separated from each other and from what it calls God.  Body is a means of separation from other people; to see one’s self as a body is to see one’s self as separated from other persons, as an ego self.

The course says that if separation were possible it would be sin. To see one’s self in body hence separated from God is to see one’s self as sinful.  Are you a sin, the book asks? You say yes if you see yourself as ego and body.

The good book, the Bible said that the wages of sin is death; thus, those who believe in separation and believe that they live in bodies must die for they believe in sin.

Christianity teaches that people are separated from God and are sinful and urges folks to pray for forgiveness of their sins; that is to say that that religion have made sin and separation real for people and then sets itself up as conduit to forgiveness and return to God.

A course in miracles teaches that body does not exist; that separation has not occurred and that we are not even in the body and earth we see ourselves as in.

Since we are not in bodies and in the world of space, time and matter therefore we have not sinned; we remain as God created us, unified with him and with each other, hence sinless, innocent, and guiltless.

If we believed that we are sinless (which requires giving up the wish for separation and living in the dream of space, time and matter) we would awaken in formless unified self now, and not see ourselves in body and this world.

But we are attached to separation and body and do not want to give them up. The course then recommends a second alternative: give the seeming separated ego and body to the Holy Spirit, and have him use them to live for us.

A life directed by the Holy Spirit urges us to forgive each other. In this world, the opposite of love, forgiveness is the meaning of love, the course says.

When we use our egos and bodies to forgive hence return to love they become healthy and lovely. A course in miracles says that when the son of God, us, seemed to have separated from his father and manifested in body that God created another self for him, a light self. We made for us a gross body and God remade it to light body.

We came to the world of space, time and matter to hide from God but God entered that world as the Holy Spirit, and as him guides us. The Holy Spirit is in our right minds (the ego is in our left minds, our wrong minds); the Holy Spirit teaches us to love and forgive those who wronged us; the ego urges us to punish those who wronged us. The Holy Spirit guides us back to God; the ego guides us to separation from God and from each other.

The Holy Spirit is the immanent God, God in the temporal universe. Thus, there are seeming three Gods in one God, the so-called Holy Trinity: God the father (who transcends this world), God the Son, us (who is now sleeping and dreaming that he is separated from God), and God the Holy Spirit, God in the world his son made, guiding him back to God (returning us to the awareness of unified state, to love).

Our real-selves, however, is the son of God, also called Christ self (loving selves). When we identify with Christ (Christ vision) and love and forgive all people we reach the gate of heaven, formlessness, and God opens its doors and let us in; we awaken to unified spirit self where we and God share one self.

Jesus wanted to prove to people that they do not die hence he died on the cross and three days later resurrected from death; he did this for people but in actual fact he did not die and did not resurrect from death; he was always formless but appeared in the form of body and seem to have died and resurrected in body, both gross body and light body and ultimately returned to formless Unified God.

If you deny sin, deny the reality of separation, deny your ego and body, do not defend your ego and body you awaken to formless-self right now, the course teaches.


In Hinduism it is Brahman, God himself who is dreaming this world while remaining awake.  Since ones real self is Atman who is part of God, it is one who dreams this world and remains awake as God.

A part of one mind, ahankara, believes that it is now separated from ones whole mind. Hinduism, like the course in miracles, sees this world as ones (part of one, not the entire self) efforts at separation from ones real self.  It teaches return to the world of union with ones total self.

A course in miracles, on the other hand, says that it is the son of God, you and I, who went to sleep and dream this world and now think that he is his dream self, the ego separated self-housed in body. It teaches giving the ego separated self and its body to the Holy Spirit so that it is guided to the real self (which is the one self the son of God shares with his father). Alternatively, one does not defend the ego separated self and its body and awaken to formless unified spirit self, now.


Do a job that is who you are; seek a vocation that is who you are; do not do work for ego glory, power, position and wealth.  If you do a work that reflects who you are in truth you are being your real self in your work life.

(Actually, one is always doing the work one is meant to do; willy-nelly we do what we came to do; the world is a drama, a script we collectively wrote and each of us volunteers to play a part in it; thus, each person is doing what the play of the world calls on him to do, that he chose to do; he cannot do other persons jobs; I chose to understand science and meta-science…I have amazing understanding of science: physics, chemistry, biology and earth science… and combine them in elucidating the nature of the self. You made a different choice from my choice; what you chose helps all of us and what I chose helps all of us find our path back to our real self; but along the way we may fight our vocation but, like it or not, we always wound up doing it. I fought my vocation as a teacher of God, a teacher of love but finally accepted it.)

My vocation is to understand people’s behaviors and personalities; showing how body determines personality but how ultimately we are not our bodies.

If one does work that is in accord with who one is, peace and joy follows one. Since other people need that work one would obtain material sustenance from doing it.


There are reasons why the individual’s life seems to follow a certain trajectory; the individual’s body determines his earthly destiny.  The individual’s body determines what he does and his personality and the life outcomes he receives.  Once on is born into a specific body one’s evolution on earth is set in a certain pattern. One must do what one does and experience the world as one does; one cannot experience the world as those born in different bodies do.

This accounts for why one cannot change ones earthly self and its behaviors or change other people’s behaviors and personalities. You may desire all you want the fact is that you cannot change other people and make them behave differently or have different personalities and have different life outcomes. The reason is that the bodies they are born into determine their destiny.

The individual’s body determines the type of work he does; those he meets and where he lives; in short everything he does and happens to him.

This view would seem to agree with science’s biological determinism of the self. However, I differ from simplistic scientism. Whereas in the here and now world I accept the determining role of our bodies, I also accept that we have a self apart from our bodies. We have a self that is not in our bodies.

In my metaphysics there are levels of the self. At the top is the self we share with God and with each other, the Unified Spirit Self, aka God.  Each of us is part of God. Each of us chose to separate from God, from his real self.

The real self (aka Son of God or Christ self) seem to sleep and project itself into a seeming separated self (what I call the higher ego self in light form…the light self is real, if you do certain Hindu meditation you will see yourself in light form).

The higher ego self in light body projects itself into the dense body self we see ourselves as on earth.  On earth we are only aware of our ego lower selves in bodies.

Everything that happens in this world is part of the drama of the world; there are really no accidents. Even racism, slavery and similar obnoxious events are all part of the script. Those who will be enslaved will be enslaved; those who will enslave them will do so; since the slave master and the slave are both not free, they will struggle for their freedom. In the long run the fate of the world is a world of mixed race people (black, white and Asian).

When I see a white racist I see an extremely childish person (childish because he hates instead of loves).  The drama requires for such a fool to exist and do what he does so that all of us may learn from him what a human being ought not to be and behave lovingly and inclusively to all persons.

These things are what we have all agreed to do and obnoxious as they are we have to do them, fight them and improve them.  In the long run a new man is in the making. The world is destined to be a loving place (the will of God is love and to obey him is to love all people; to hate is to disobey the will of God).

For our present purposes, on earth the individual’s body seems to determine his behavior and personality. There is also a higher self-directing the show. Discussing the metaphysics of the higher self is beyond the scope of this paper; it is not what I want to accomplish here. Here, I just want to say that building on my observation of myself, and the hundreds of patients that I have worked with, I have one inevitable conclusion: my body determined my behavior and personality (and the same holds true for you and for all human beings).


One of the lessons that I have learned in life is that other people, white and black, did not do this to me; other persons were not responsible for my success or failure; my inherited body and consequent personality determined the life outcomes that I have had.

An unknown part of me did it to me. I can study and understand me and change my behaviors and receive different outcomes.

It is in this fact that human beings have freedom, for if their lives were determined by other persons, by the external environment and they could not change them then they do not have freedom.

Freedom and salvation lies in the realization that the individual (at a higher self, not at a lower self for his lower ego self does not know that he is in charge of his life) is responsible for his fate and that he can change that fate.

The ego has two levels: the lower ego self that we are aware of and the higher ego self that we are not aware of. It is the higher ego self, which we are unconscious of, that makes us (that is, the lower ego self in body) do what we do. The lower ego self and the higher ego self are often in conflict (such as when your lower ego self wants to do a job and your higher ego self-knowing that that job is not for you resists you doing it and the result is conflict).

Both the higher and the lower ego selves are false self; the real self is spirit, the Christ self, a part of God, aka unified spirit self. It is the real self, the Christ self that projects itself to the higher ego self and the higher ego-self projects itself to the lower ego self (in body).

Although initially the individual may not understand that his destiny is in his hands, for his biology masks it, with study he can understand what is going on and change his direction.

In this realization is human salvation; if we are determined and cannot change our lives we are slaves and are doomed.

In sum, building on self-observation, this paper says that our bodies determine our behaviors and personalities. It, however, postulates that there is another self apart from the human body and personality. It calls that other self the real-self. The real-self is part of what folks call God, what it calls unified spirit self. The real self appears separated from the unified self and projects itself to a higher separated ego self that is in light body form, not in gross body and that higher ego self-projects itself to a lower ego self in gross body form (our earthly forms). On earth we are only aware of our lower ego self, the conscious self.  The higher ego self sits above the lower ego self-directing it (and the later sometimes opposing it hence intra-psyche conflict). Both the higher and lower ego selves (selves in forms, light and dense) are false self; the real self (which is formless) is the self that is part of unified spirit self, a formless self that no one on earth is aware of (a self that enlightened persons, avatars occasionally glean).

Ozodi Thomas Osuji

February 16, 2012

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The Real Self Institute teaches folks what their real self is. The real self is a loving self; it is part of unified spirit self. The real-self projects itself to the higher ego self (which is in form but light form) and the higher ego-self projects itself to the lower ego self (which is in gross form, our current body-self).

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Ozodi Osuji Ph.D

Ozodi Thomas Osuji is from Imo State, Nigeria. He obtained his PhD from UCLA. He taught at a couple of Universities and decided to go back to school and study psychology. Thereafter, he worked in the mental health field and was the Executive Director of two mental health agencies. He subsequently left the mental health environment with the goal of being less influenced by others perspectives, so as to be able to think for himself and synthesize Western, Asian and African perspectives on phenomena. Dr Osuji’s goal is to provide us with a unique perspective, one that is not strictly Western or African but a synthesis of both. Dr Osuji teaches, writes and consults on leadership, management, politics, psychology and religions. Dr Osuji is married and has three children; he lives at Anchorage, Alaska, USA.

He can be reached at: (907) 310-8176