This paper points out that those who posit and pursue idealized self images and idealized standards tend to reject and avoid real people for they are not perceived as ideal. The result is that they tend to be lonely persons. Loneliness is anxiety and depression making. The paper says that one must accept ones self, other persons, social institutions and the world of space, time and matter as they are, imperfect, and relate to them as such and not expect them to change and become what they cannot become, perfect, before one relates to them.   THE LONELY LIFE OF…

A course in miracles wrote that nothing can happen to one without one wanting to experience it; that the secret of salvation is the realization that everything that happened to one is exactly what one wanted to experience. It says that we tend to think that we came to a world that is different from what we wanted to see but that the world we see is exactly the world we wanted to see; that everything in the world is exactly as we wished for them to be and that everything that happens in our world is exactly as we…

The cliché: you never know where good may come from is really true. Who would believe that profound psychological insights would come from the thinkers of the Catholic Church? In my rebellion against my inherited Christianity I had sworn never to have anything to do with the Catholic Church (during my college years I went to Rome to go spit at St Paul’s Cathedral; I had seen the Vatican as the viper’s nest, a wolf’s lair from which the world was manipulated into obeying the Catholic Church). Thus, for years, I paid no attention to whatever Catholic thinkers (theologians) write.…

When children are loved in what Carl Rogers called unconditional positive manner by those that Harry Stack Sullivan called their significant others (that is, their parents, siblings, peers, authority figures, such as teachers, ministers etc.) they tend to grow up feeling accepted by their world and feel secure in their world.  They go through the various developmental stages described by Erick Erickson and other developmental psychologists smoothly. (See Erickson, Childhood and Society; Piaget, Moral Development of the Child; Lawrence Kohlberg’s moral development of the child; Burton and White’s studies on child development etc.). Such children become adults whose chronological age,…