Psychology

WHY IDEALISTS ARE CRITICAL PEOPLE AND WHY THEY MUST STOP BEING CRITICAL Ozodi Thomas Osuji The idealist, in childhood, rejected his problematic body and ego and used his thinking and imagination to come up with an ideal alternative self. By age six he has already posited an ideal self. The self is conceptual; each of us uses his inherited biological constitution and social experience to construct his self-concept, aka personality. (See George Kelly, 1955, Personality as a personal construct. New York: Norton.) The ideal self has ideal standards of behaviors. (See Karen Horney, 1950, Neurosis and Human Growth. New York:…
Light from the sun takes about 9 minutes to reach us on earth. Thus, the sun you just saw is as it was nine minutes ago. The same goes for seeing those around you. Light strikes their bodies and then is reflected to your eyes and you see them. It takes a moment of time interval to see the person near you because of the nature of light and reflection. Therefore, you see the person around you as he was a moment ago not as he is right now. This is physics not metaphysics. A course in miracles talks about…
Wednesday, 06 September 2017 17:41

Living fearlessly has many benefits

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There are people whose lives are circumscribed by fear. Right from the moment that they are born they live in excessive fear. They anticipate what could harm them and take precautionary measures. As a result they live restricted, limited lives; they are always anticipating danger and running away from it. They do not live fully. As children at school they are anxious and do not learn well; as adults at work they are anxious from their anticipation of danger from their co-workers, especially from their bosses; in society as a whole they perceive danger everywhere; for example, if a police…
At Facebook some folks post their pictures for other folks to see; some write stuff for other folks to read. Each person exhibits his self for the entire world to see. I know a woman who, daily, practically changes her dress, takes picture of herself in these different attires and post them at Facebook. She apparently revels in looking pretty, bedecked in beautiful clothes and jewelry. Apparently, she wants folks to see her as beautiful. Incidentally, unbeknown to her she also wants folks to see her as a bimbo, as a woman with nothing in her head. If you have…
Sunday, 27 August 2017 03:54

Helen Schucman and dissociative disorder

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Ozodi Osuji is thinking out loud: HELEN SCHUCMAN AND DISSOCIATIVE DISORDER At night we sleep. In our sleep we dream. In our dreams are different people, each with his own well integrated personality. In a dream a person who, in day life, does not know anything about, say, physics or mathematics may have a character in it teaching physics or mathematics. Yet, it is the sleeping individual that produced the seeming different persons in his dreams, persons with skills that he may not have in day life. If that is the case could it be that the day world is…
In the early twentieth century psychiatry and psychology came into full flowering; they made fun of religion; they reinterpreted religious ideas into psychological language. Religion, for example, defined certain behaviors as evil but psychology saw those behaviors as mere psychopathologies, mental disorders caused by malfunctioning bodies or negative social experience. Paranoid, narcissistic, antisocial and other personality disorders were explained as behavior disorders. In the meantime persons with those personality disorders commit mayhem. Adolf Hitler was a paranoid, anti-social and narcissistic personality disordered person. Instead of looking at his evil behaviors, his massacring fifty million people psychoanalysts tell us that he…
From Ozodi Osuji's Daily Journal: MY MIND IS RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYTHINGTHAT I EXPERIENCE When I was in graduate school I concluded that professors serve the powers that be in society and really are not critical of the status quo; if they criticize the gatekeepers of society they could lose their jobs or become marginalized. Thus, they keep quiet as their country and world burns. It takes fearless, bold militants to go to the streets and mobilize to bring about social change (the society that I want is social democratic with mixed economy). Since professors do not do that I lost…
WE SEEK OTHER PEOPLES APPROVAL BECAUSE OF OUR DESIRE TO LIVE IN BODY Ozodi Thomas Osuji This is an addendum to the essay that I wrote this morning pointing out how fear makes African-Americans to tolerate slavery, racism and makes Africans to tolerate bad governance by their thievish leaders and makes human beings in general to abide by the tyrants that rule them. If people did not fear death they would challenge their leaders and if they are killed that would be better than living as second class citizens. Why do we seek other people's approval and attention? It is…
DREAMS ARE KEY TO UNDERSTANDING WHAT WE NEED TO CHANGE IN OUR LIVES Ozodi Thomas Osuji Freudian psychology teaches that we have several parts to our minds, including id, ego and superego; and conscious and unconscious parts. The id is our natural instincts such as sex and aggression; we have urges to satisfy those instincts; the superego is our learned and internalized social norms checking the id instincts; the ego is kind of like a referee mediating between the id (nature) and the superego (society/civilization), balancing them. For example, the id tells you to have sex with all the good…
Saturday, 29 July 2017 05:05

Real self realized

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In relating to my writing please skip them if they do not make sense to you; each of us is at a different stage in our emotional, mental and spiritual evolution on planet earth. What I write may not yet be for you although they may be so in the future. My writing will appeal to those who want to know who their real self is and want to wake up from the false ego selves we live as while on earth, the dream of self-forgetfulness, the dream of separation; we are always unified with one another and with our…
THE PURSUIT OF EGO IDEAL IS WAR ON YOUR REAL SELF; IT IS NOW TIME FOR PEACE BY STOPPING THE WAR ON YOURSELF Ozodi Thomas Osuji The desire for the ideal self is a ruse for one to use one's mind to keep attacking another part of one's mind, the real mind. The false mind, that is, the ideal mind and ideal self, attacks the real mind; the real mind is associated with body; a body seen as not good enough, just as God is seen as not good enough hence justifying attack both of them hence attacking the real…
WHEN YOU SAY GOODBYE TO FEAR YOU ALSO SAY GOODBYE TO ANGER Ozodi Thomas Osuji CORRECTING THE ERRORS IN DEPENDENT PERSONALITY Three days ago I went to a talk. I came back and wrote it up and sent a copy to the person who gave the talk. I also sent a copy to one of the participants. Also three days ago I called someone at my school and left a message, in fact, I called her the next day and also left a message in her voice mail as well as with the receptionist. None of the above three persons…
Wednesday, 26 July 2017 18:36

Your dreams teach you about you

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IT IS ONES MIND THAT DREAMS PERSECUTION FOR ONE; NO OTHER PERSONS PERSECUTE ONE Ozodi Thomas Osuji DREAM INTERPRETATION JULY 23, 2017 10: 57 PM In this dream I was lying on my bed; I felt that an unknown force is preventing me from getting up from the bed, making me unable to even roll sideways on the bed; I did not see what the force is and began speculating on what it could be; I wondered whether it could be evil souls or even ghosts in my bedroom. Finally, I decided to force myself to roll off the bed…
Biological Traumas Are Causal Factors In Personality Disorders Date: July 24, 2017 To: Bruce Bibee, LPC From: Ozodi Osuji, PhD (907) 310-8176 This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. Subject: Your presentation yesterday. Your presentation yesterday at the ATOM center of Anchorage, Alaska prompted me to write the following piece. I will think more of it and if it still makes sense to me develop it further and send it out to an appropriate journal for publication. Thank you for the excellent talk you gave us on developmental psychology and how traumatic experiences disrupt child development and possibly cause dissociative disorders and or post-traumatic- stress disorder…
From Ozodi Osuji's Daily Journal: EACH OF US HAS A KARMA, A FATE AND CANNOT CHANGE IT In childhood I had serious medical issues that made me feel at the gate of death almost daily. I inherited a serious genetic disorder called cytochrome c oxidase deficiency. My body almost always felt inflamed, burning sensations. My body was traumatized. Like most children with serious medical disorders I came to depend on my parents to help me more than was necessary. Thus, in a manner of speaking I developed traits of dependent personality disorder. A dependent personality expects other people to take…
Sunday, 28 May 2017 21:41

Idealism gives the idealist fear

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IDEALISM GIVES THE IDEALIST FEAR FEAR IS USED TO PROTECT THE SELF ONE CREATED FOR ONES SELF Ozodi Thomas Osuji In idealism one uses one mind to invent how one ought to be, how other people ought to be and how the world ought to be; in effect, one has recreated one's self, other selves and the world to be in one's desired image. One clings to that self-recreation and recreation of the world and defends it. One primarily defends it with fear. Fear is a means of protecting ones creation, making sure that it survives. It is ones handiwork…
The Eight Levels Of The Self In The Temporal And Permanent Universes Ozodi Thomas Osuji Each human being has eight levels of the self. In eternity, aka heaven there is one self, the unified self, the self the sons of God share with their creator and each other; in that formless, unified self-there is no separation between the members; there is no self and non self; all selves share oneself; where one self ends and others begin is nowhere; each self is in other selves; there is no space hence no perception; there is no seer and seen, no subject…
DEPENDENT PERSONALITY STRUCTURE IS ONE OF THE REASONS WHY AFRICANS ARE BACKWARD Ozodi Thomas Osuji Earlier this week, out of the blues, a thirty nine year old man called me from Nigeria. He introduced his self by telling me that he read, at the Internet, an article I did on his dead nephew, Mike. I had tried calling Mike and his phone was not picked up. After several tries I called a friend in the Los Angeles area and asked him to go check on him. He did and learned from the apartments' manager that Mike is dead. She told…
Sunday, 30 April 2017 14:26

What does it mean to be a grown up?

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In my self-evaluation I see me as not a grown up! So, what does it mean to say that a person is a grown up? I think that what it means to be grown up is represented in the saying that when you understand all you forgive all and when you forgive all you love all. The question is: what does it mean to understand all? How do you understand people? I had a tendency to blame people and to be angry at people. I would compare people to how I believed that they ought to be and find them…
Wednesday, 26 April 2017 23:47

Women need to be loved

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WOMEN NEED TO BE LOVED AND ADMIRED OR THEY BECOME SICK Ozodi Osuji What I am going to say may smack of stereotyping women. May be so; maybe not. I am known for stating how I see things without varnishing my perception or trying to say only what would please folks so that they like me. I am totally politically incorrect. I say it as I see it. In that light: here is my perception of women. Women truly need to be loved by those around them. This is in contradistinction to men; I could care less whether you loved…
The Absence Of Love Is The Cause Of All Emotional And Mental Disorders; The Presence Of Love Is What Heals All Emotional And Mental Disorders Ozodi Thomas Osuji I am always thinking about what other people think about me; I would like them to see me as powerful and perfect, a superior person. This means that I do not really think about them but am preoccupied with what they think about me; I want them to collude with me and see me as I want to be seen, an important person. I do not have love for those I want…
To Have Peace And Happiness One Must Stop Striving For A Better Self Ozodi Osuji My whole life is a preparation to have a better self; a preparation to have a better future, a preparation to live well but never living in the now, the moment. I am always striving for a better self, a powerful self, and a perfect self, for anything but living as I am now. WHY? Why am I always living for the future not the present? I saw my present self, especially my body, as problematic, which biologically it is and rejected it and used…
Sunday, 09 April 2017 23:34

Existentialism On My Mind.

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Jean Paul Sartre, in his 1948 book, Existentialism and Humanism, tried to tell us what existentialism is; he said that "existence precedes essence". Let me try to explain what he meant and, perhaps, in the process shade light on what existentialism is. Most forms of philosophy and religion posit what they call human nature; that is, they postulate the essence of who people are supposed to be. Having posited an abstract conception of who they think that people are, they then try to fit real people into their mental constructs of who they are supposed to be. In effect, essence…
Friday, 07 April 2017 00:02

Coping with existential depression

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Abstract This paper is a feedback to a young man that presents with what the writer judged existential depression. The young man did not find any earthly activity meaningful and therefore did not really want to do anything. He felt that life in body is a waste of time, ennui, since ultimately we shall all die. The paper seeks ways to motivate the young man to live fully in the face of the existential realities he described. The larger aim of the paper is to postulate how human beings can cope with their meaningless and purposeless existence. COPING WITH EXISTENTIAL…
Thursday, 06 April 2017 21:11

Existential Psychotherapy

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Abstract: This paper points out that whereas biology and society play roles in the genesis of mental health issues the nature of existence itself is probably the key determiner of mental health or lack of it. It says that existence presents human beings with the sad information that they are not special and are essentially nothing; it says that how an individual deals with this assault on his self-esteem is critical to his mental health; it says that human beings would like to see themselves as having worth and see their lives as meaningful and purposeful so in the presence…