Saturday, 14 January 2012 03:10

Profound Pity for Benjamin Aduba

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Generally, I leave it to folks to have their responses to my write ups without bothering to respond to them. Each reader is entitled to his opinion on what he just read and has a right to articulate it. One does not have to argue with him about his opinion.

Perception is projection. Whatever a person says about what he sees is his opinion projected out and not necessarily the truth of the thing seen.

What is the truth of what we see? I certainly do not know what the truth is. Thus, I leave each person to his idea of the truth and have mine, realizing that ultimately none of us knows what the truth is.

What I have done towards Igbos is nothing less than frontal attack. I attacked to destroy their grandiose self-concepts.  I saw them speaking and living out of the ideal self rather than from the real self.

Each of us has two sides to his self-concept: his real self and his wished for ideal self. The real self knows that he is imperfect and powerless Vis a Vis reality.

The ideal self is the imaginary self that wishes that it had all the power in the world and could do whatever it wants to do. The ideal-self fancies that it is perfect and superior and is better than other selves. This is the child in us; the child sees an overwhelming world and feels inferior and wishes that he is superior to that world; the child wishes that he is the master of the universe.

Children are narcissistic and engage in magical thinking; they imagine themselves superior and perfect and all powerful; with magical wands they make the world bend to their wishes.

The real-self accepts the reality that no human being is superior to other persons and that no one has power to make the world bend to his whim. The real self knows that although people have different talents that ultimately they are the same and coequal.

The normal person, more or less, speaks from his real self hence recognizes his limitations; there is humility in what he says and does.

The neurotic, on the other hand, so completely identifies with his wished for ideal self that he tries to speak and act from it. Having identified with the imaginary big self he acts as if he is better than other persons. Thus, the neurotic puts other people down. He looks at other people not from his realistic real self but from his imaginary ideal, all powerful and perfect self and from that impossible-self fancies that he is better than other person. The neurotic is a proud and vain human being because he fancies that he is his imaginary ideal self. (See, Karen Horney, Neurosis and Human Growth. New York: W.W Norton, 1950).

I noticed that many of the Igbos on this forum realistically appraise their real selves as not powerful hence not good enough but instead of accepting that reality they reject their real selves and identify with their imaginary ideal selves and talk and behave from their imaginary superior selves. From the fantasy ideal self they imagine themselves better than other people and talk as if they are perfect and powerful.

I was irritated by this fact and went to work to dismantle their neurotic behaviors and lifestyle. Thus, in every opportunity I got I laid into them and reminded them of how infantile and foolish they are.  I was attacking their imaginary ideal selves and many of them felt the attack and did not like it and came at me with their rutted swords. These Igbo neurotics fancy themselves defending Igbo manhood from my attacks on it hence attack me.

It is all fair at war, so I accept their attacks, aware of what they are doing; they are defending their imaginary perfect selves that I had attacked.

Neurosis is nothing if not defensiveness. The neurotic ego is false (pride) and defends itself with the various ego defense mechanisms (repression, suppression, denial, projection, displacement, rationalization, reaction- formation, sublimation, fantasy, pride, anger, avoidance, minimizing, justifying etc.).

Once I start something I must finish it; I do not let up; thus, I continued giving it to them some more. Over the last couple of years I have generally attacked Igbos delusion of superiority and self-impotence and some of them have finally learned that they are not the superior persons their childish fantasies had thought that they were.

Alas, some of them do not want to let go of their idealized self-concepts and accept their imperfect and not so powerful real self-concepts. Thus, they keep trying to prove me wrong. The idea is that if I am proved wrong then they would justify being their childish ideal selves. These folks have called me every name their limited vocabulary could muster.

Many have tried and failed.  Benjamin Aduba is now trying. I am tempted to lay into him and show him as the third rate mind he is.

I noticed him when by accident I read one of his pieces in which he claimed to live on an acre of land in the city of Boston. I wrote a reply reminding him that not even the super-rich can have one acre of land in Boston. He could have an acre of land in the boonies but not in the city where property value is very high. Perhaps, he does not know what an acre is?  You never know. (I suspect that in claiming to live on an acre of land in the city of Boston Aduba is merely engaging in that annoying Igbo tendency to grandiosity, presenting themselves as wealthy and powerful when like all of us they are struggling to make ends meet. Why can’t these people just accept themselves as they are, ordinary, not so rich and famous?  God, their masquerading as very important persons gets on my nerves!)

In another piece he talked about how Igbos now own Lagos. Why? They have lived there long enough and are supposedly the majority population and thus own the place. I could not understand how a college educated person could make such stupid statement. All Yoruba’s need to do is start killing Igbos and the rest of the Igbos at Lagos would carry their loads on their sorry heads and run to Alaigbo.

As we speak, Boko Haram is killing Christians and Igbos in the North and many Igbos are now running to the East. So much for owning where they live.

You own where your folks militarily conquered. Europeans used force to take America from Indians so America now belongs to them until someone defeats them.  They can allow us, Africans, to squatter here but that does not mean that America belongs to us (regardless of whether we are naturalized citizens or not).

The last time that I checked Igbos did not use military power to conquer Lagos and take it from Yorubas or conquer Boston and take it from White Americans. Aduba does not seem to understand this reality when he claims that just because he lives at Lagos or Boston that those places belong to him and his Igbos. (The US immigration folk can review his application for green-card and or naturalization, and being a lying Igbo he probably told lies on it, use that excuse to bundle him back to Igbo land, his real home).

In the last couple of days Aduba has been talking rubbish over the fuel subsidy removal palaver. I read a couple of his submissions and shook my head at how dumb a human being could be. It would be patronizing to say that his submissions are of freshman quality; the best approach to them is to ignore them.

I ignored him.  However, I have noticed that he has brought his freshman level of understanding of phenomena to me. He is now grading me! He gave an article I wrote a D. I am not even sure he understood what he read for it does not seem to me that he is capable of understanding anything that I wrote.

He operates from Igbo grandiosity; that is, he fancies that he is knowledgeable and in his opinion the claptrap he writes is worthwhile knowledge. Poor man! He has not written anything that smacks of knowledge!

My inclination is to ignore him.  But on second thoughts it occurred to me that he is continuing the old behavior of Igbos trying to present my perception as not good so as to justify retaining their deluded grandiose self-views.  This is a pity.

If I were Aduba I would learn from certain folks on this forum, folks that actually know what they are talking about instead of pretending ability to grade someone.

I believe that Aduba is mentally challenged; he is not worth any effort on my part to take him on and dismantle him. I feel an urge to deconstruct this man and reconstruct him on a more rational ground but what is the use? He is mediocre and one should not waste ones time and energy on nothingness. I will let his pretensions stand; let sleeping dogs lie.

I have profound pity for Aduba. He is trying very hard to seem to know what he is talking about but the fact is that he does not know what the hell he is talking about.

He is exhibiting that Igbo trait whereby an ignorant Igbo feels an urge to speak up on every subject even if he does not know what he is talking about. Speaking up apparently makes him seem powerful(to gratify his neurotic desire to for superiority and ideal self, a desire that makes him and his people claim to be superior persons when in fact they are not even civilized persons).

One ought to speak up if one actually has something worthwhile to say. Aduba has nothing worthwhile to say. Many folks on this forum know it.

I certainly do not account Aduba as one of those I consider must read.  If I were him I would discard my pride and read the writings of the few persons on this forum who actually know what they’ are talking about rather than just make bleeping noise and think that his noise amounts to a hill of beans.

Let me reiterate that I did what I did to Igbos consciously. I consciously set out to humiliate them, to show them as naked emperors. I did so to get them to stop pretending to be supermen, for they are not even up to par with others much more supermen. I was trying to heal them of their neurotic sense of superiority and bring them to normal state of being, a state that sees all selves as the same and coequal.

I know how difficult it is to heal the neurotic’s sense of superiority, for it serves an existential function for him: it masks his sense of inferiority and existential nothingness. He does not want to accept his existential nothingness and hides that existential nothingness with false superiority; acceptance of one’s nothingness is the beginning of mental health and maturity.

In the nature of things, my efforts to heal these folks of their neurosis is probably mostly wasted but if a few of them learn from them and change and now sees themselves as the equal of all human beings and not superior to any one I am happy.

I have humored this clown long enough; he is nothing and one must not waste ones time on nothingness. Enough already!

Ozodiobi Osuji

January 13, 2012

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Ozodi Osuji Ph.D

Ozodi Thomas Osuji is from Imo State, Nigeria. He obtained his PhD from UCLA. He taught at a couple of Universities and decided to go back to school and study psychology. Thereafter, he worked in the mental health field and was the Executive Director of two mental health agencies. He subsequently left the mental health environment with the goal of being less influenced by others perspectives, so as to be able to think for himself and synthesize Western, Asian and African perspectives on phenomena. Dr Osuji’s goal is to provide us with a unique perspective, one that is not strictly Western or African but a synthesis of both. Dr Osuji teaches, writes and consults on leadership, management, politics, psychology and religions. Dr Osuji is married and has three children; he lives at Anchorage, Alaska, USA.

He can be reached at: ozodiosuji@gmail.com (907) 310-8176