Lifestyle

Thursday, 22 October 2015 04:12

Planning a massive coronary?

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When you eat a junk western or rich Nigerian diet,[i] you risk a heart attack – Abi Adegboye Nobody plans to have a massive heart attack at 42 leaving behind parents, wife, and children unceremoniously but this is one of those cases where a failure to plan, is a plan to fail. In other words, if you fail to plan on avoiding a heart attack, you are on a collision course to having one! In recent times, we’ve lost at least three significant members of our community to heart attack; Komlar Dumor being the most well-known. All died in their…
In his Independence speech to the nation, President Buhari decried the prevalence of unruly behavior in Nigeria and hinted that such behavior could deter progress made in his administration's effort to turn things around in the nation. It is quite interesting that the President of our populous nation should act like a parent interested in addressing a problem that befalls his children and that falls within the duties we call upon citizens, parents, teachers, and religious leaders to perform. The purpose of this essay is threefold: briefly define the term unruly; suggest reasons for the unruly behavior Nigerians are displaying;…
Thursday, 23 July 2015 12:39

The Best Place for Nigerians to Live

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We put it bluntly that America is the worst place for Nigerians to live in. Read our earlier essay: http://chatafrik.com/articles/life-style/america-the-worst-place-for-nigerians-to-live#.Va7QB7NViko. We are now saying in this essay: "Ebe anyi ka mma" (Igbo for our home is the best). You can say that charity begins at home because your family first welcomed you to the world before you took off like a wild horse to fight the battles of life. In 2010 during Jonathan's reign, I landed by Delta at Abuja's Nnamdi Azikiwe International Airport and bid farewell to many of my fellow travelers. Bert flies to Abuja more often than…
Special thanks go to Nigerians who attended my divorce prevention seminars and helped to develop this essay. I can only speak for myself. I don’t know about you. But America makes me fearful; it intimidates me, it gives me a feeling of inferiority complex, it makes me feel less of a man, and then it messes up marriages of my friends. America has given me a wrong impression of money as well as erroneous education. The worst place for Nigerians to be young or grow old in is America. You did not get me right the first time, and I…
SMALL BUT SERIOUS DEBATE NOTES on Same-Sex Profile: You will discover how critical the issue of same-sex relationship debates has gained the world's attention since the USA Supreme Court ruled to accord same-sex marriage equal recognition and benefits much like other traditional forms of marriage namely between a man and woman practiced in the country. Marriage equality rather than discrimination is now the law of the land irrespective of whom one chooses as a partner - man or woman. Yet many individuals and nations across the world are not at ease with the radical ruling to make same-sex marriage a…
Igbos are a seriously misunderstood people. We bet we Igbos are survivors; we are not primitive or paranoid as some people make us to be. First, people ought to learn to avoid the habits of insulting people to get them to do what they want done. Secondly, you provide positive reinforcements (praise) to help others want to do what you want. I would add the third point of social observational learning, which involves modeling behavior you want others to emulate. Albert Bandura is my favorite psychologist, though other theorists are quite useful. Note that Western-style counseling approaches do not work…
The Romans, in their wisdom, got it exactly right when they taught the world, “Per ardua ad astra” meaning “Through hardship to the stars” which could also translate to “the pathway to stardom is hard work with perseverance” I am yet to meet two Nigerian twin sisters who have lived and exemplified that line better than the stars of this article. What moves me to want to do this in the public square, so to speak, is the special joy I feel in my heart as I watched the twins take control of their lives in a foreign country despite…
Prof. Dora Nkem Akunyili, OFR, former Director General of NAFDAC, ex-Minister of Information, one of the most adored public servants, a woman of courage, who waged a successful war against counterfeit and fake drugs in Nigeria, became a terror to fake drugs cartels; regardless whose business was involved, she followed the NAFDAC policies to the core; is gone to rest peacefully with the Lord. Dora would be missed, most especially at this point in time in Nigeria history when the country's reputation is at its lowest ebb again; she succumbed to complications arising from uterine cancer at the tender age…
The subject of leadership - why and how people lead others - will continue to occupy conversations. Have you ever written something - an idea flowing and all of a sudden something happened and you got the statement being written wiped off only to realize it is nowhere to be traced especially when it is being drafted online or in an office? It can happen. Leadership cannot be allowed to be a mistake. Leadership must be real, continuous and able to have an impact – now and after. When folks discuss leadership, some do so through criticism while others engage…
The in-thing these days is for young American women to declare themselves as bisexuals (and for older ones to live with other women in lesbian relationships). This phenomenon is on the rise and would increase in the future. These women want to have it all, have sex with both men and women. They want to stimulate their bodies any which way they can, have multiple orgasms, preferably hourly. They supplement their bisexuality with eating good food, drinking alcohol, doing drugs and living the good life in every which way they can imagine it possible. This behavior is motivated by the…
Not long ago, I attended what we might call radical black Americans liberation weekly meetings. We meet at 7 PM and seldom left before 10 PM. Members of the group are conversant with black militant literature and philosophy, such as Malcolm X, Eldridge Cleaver, Bobby Seal, Hugh Newton and Stockely Carmichael and so on. These are folks who in the 1960s and 1970s would be considered part of the Black Panther Party. These sorts of people see nothing good in the white community and simply want to replace it with a different society. We met and talked about alternatives to…
You either accept a thought system or you don't. There is no room for vacillation, fence sitting and being undecided. If you accept a thought system then you must live it. Essentially, there are only two thought systems competing for people's acceptance. One is the scientific approach to phenomena and the other is the religious view that we are responsible for our actions. If you accept the thought system of science, you accept the belief that we are the products of chance material evolution. You believe that accidents, randomness and chance produced changes in the environment and those produced us.…
Monday, 03 February 2014 00:42

Homosexuals Deny God

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Abstract: There is a whole lot of talk going on about homosexuality. The clueless President of the United States, Barack Obama, who has made himself the commander in chief of the homosexual brigade is even threatening African countries with economic punishment should they not approve homosexuality. The man does not find it in his heart to increase the level of economic aid given to Africa by his predecessors but is willing to punish Africans because they do not approve a lifestyle their culture deems abhorrent. Talk of economic aids having strings! In all these foolish talk no one pauses to…
Many Igbos apparently see me as a renegade and a saboteur who betrays his people and aligns with other Nigerians. I am the high priest of Amadioha. The people’s spiritual leader has functions to perform for them including speaking the truth. I had to point out what is wrong with Igbos. With that function performed, I now turn to talking about what is right with Igbos. I must warn Igbos that as they hear nice things from me they should not overdo their tendency to arrogance, for hubris goes before fall. Humility is the sign of godliness and maturity. Why…
If you posit an ego ideal, a wish to be perfect and pursue it you are caught in a bind; most of your behaviors would be motivated to seem ideal; you would use the standards of an imaginary ideal self to judge everything that you do, that other people do and fearing not living up to them you avoid doing many things. You would think that other people are judging you with the standards of the ego ideal (your projection to them) and fearing that they would find you not ideal you would avoid doing many things. Fearing that people…
Sunday, 12 January 2014 02:23

Quit the dying already…

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I just attended the funeral of a beloved sister who passed at the tender age of 41 of breast cancer. And frankly, I was pissed. Yeah, yeah, people die young for a variety of reasons – accidents, crazed gunman, asbestos, incurable diseases, etc. BUT my point in this piece is QUIT THE NEEDLESS DYING ALREADY! As far as I am concerned, when you know better, you do better. There is no reason for anyone to die of breast cancer in this day and age. We know about regularly checking for lumps in your breast by oneself, partner or doctor. We…
Happy New Year! Here’s to a productive and successful year where all the things on your to-do list end up in your ‘done pile.’ Talking about to do lists, I’m sure you made some resolutions or set some goals for the year. Trying to get a jumpstart on making resolutions stick; I started doing research in November so I won’t quit before January came to an end. Below are some tips I gathered and have been using. So far, I have completed over 30 days of daily exercise and achieved an almost perfect score on sugar abstention. Use these for…
In a festive season like this where money is a determining factor of so many things, a Las Vegas taxi driver proved it is the season of goodwill - after he handed in $300,000 left in the back of his cab. There is a popular dictum in the Yoruba cosmology of the West that "Eefi ni wa" which simply translates to mean that human character is like smoke, in other words you cannot hide your character. The possibility of concealing your true nature is there, you may succeed with it for a while but not long the true you will…
In my observation, just about everything good in America originated with African Americans! If there were no African Americans white folks probably would have remained as primitive as they were before the discovery of America. All that the Western world is now known for came into being after their encounter with Africa in the fifteenth century (around 1460s when Prince Henry the Navigator sent his sailors to explore the coast of Africa, in search of a different route to India, to bypass the traditional Mediterranean route now controlled by Muslims). In 1492 Europeans got to America. In 1500 The Portuguese…
Friday, 06 September 2013 23:12

Our Beliefs Influence Our Behaviors

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Abstract: This paper says that the beliefs a person has about who he is, who other people are and what the world is affects his behavior; his behavior affects the outcome he receives from life. Whereas people are always acquiring new beliefs those acquired during the individual’s childhood are primary and influence his behavior the most. Biological and sociological factors contribute to the individual’s development of primary beliefs. The paper says that the individual can study his beliefs, understand them, see how they affect his behaviors and change those that can be realistically changed and live with those that cannot…
Friday, 30 August 2013 04:39

In Support Of Race Mixing

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Abstract: This essay says that all human beings, black and white belong to the same animal species. As members of the same species they are sexually attracted to one another. Therefore, they will have sex and produce mixed race children. Aware that the future is a mixed race one racists fight it. The essay says that people have to accept reality and not fight it. It says that the racists fear that racial mixing means a return of the offspring to a more primitive state is understandable but the realistic thing to do is provide the offspring with scientific education…
Friday, 16 August 2013 04:41

Parenting Leaders: Be Present

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Ọmọ tí a ò kọ́ láá wo ilé tí a kọ́ (The undisciplined child will destroy the home of distinction). A friend called yesterday, who was facing a peculiar dilemma. She was hosting a family on vacation – dad, mom and three children ages 9, 6, and 3. In the first two days in her home, the children had broken an antique mirror, a dining table chair, and several plates. One had spilt grape juice on her beige rug, another had torn a curtain, and the third had written on the wall. Each time any of the children committed an…
Sunday, 04 August 2013 00:00

A Nation Of Perverts And Paedophiles

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The Nigerian Senate includes some of the brightest minds in our country many of whom are friends of mine and most of whom have been in active politics for many years. They have my respect. However what transpired in the Senate chamber a few days ago was a great cause for concern for not just me but millions of Nigerians from all over the world. How an innocent and seemingly uninteresting, uninspiring and unimportant debate about when and at what age a Nigerian citizen could legitimately and lawfully renounce his or her citizenship turned into a referendum on paedophilia and…
I expressed my concerns about the issue of paedophilia and child brides in Nigeria quite extensively in an essay that I wrote last week titled ''A Nation Of Perverts and Paedophiles'' which was widely published and which attracted a lot of rejoinders and commentries from other writers and commentators from both sides of the divide. I do not intend to cover the same ground or repeat the same arguements here but kindly permit me to make a final contribution to the debate in this piece. The good news is that no matter what anyone thinks or says and regardless of…
This essay talks about the need for Nigeria and Nigerian states to ascertain the number of Nigerians requiring social services and plan on how to meet those needs. Let Us Do Some Planning For Social Services In Nigeria Ozodi Osuji The dictionary defines plan as “a detailed scheme, program or method worked out beforehand for the accomplishment of an objective.” Planning entails providing for the future. It means looking at the realities of today, extrapolating from them and projecting them to the future and anticipating what the future would look like and putting some plans in place to meet those…