Wednesday, 30 August 2017 21:10

Lack of sense of humor is due to fearfulness

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I love people with good sense of humor; they make me laugh; only God knows that I need a good laugh to put me out of my misery (if you think obsessive-compulsively, as I do, you need ways to stop thinking; humor and meditation does it for me).

In fact, I go to Facebook specifically to read a certain Yoruba girl, Anne, whose sense of humor, in American colloquial parlance, is off the charts. That girl has a wicked sense of humor! She finds a way to make Nigerian politics humorous. I read her and go into convulsions of laughter. God, she makes me laugh. I wish that she could find a way to make some smackeroos (money) from her humorous nature. Comedians are paid loads of dough in certain climes.

Over the years I observed that people who lack sense of humor, people who are, all the time, deadly serious tend to be fearful persons!

In fear people try to behave like they are important, like they are Mr. Big Stuff; they do not relax and smell the roses and coffee. It is as if they believe that if they let go of their sense of importance they would be seen as socially unimportant and not taken seriously. To seem like very important persons they behave seriously and humorlessly.

These humorless brothers need to relax, smile and laugh. Laughter, Readers Digest (is it still in publication?) used to tell us is the best medicine.

When you laugh from the pit of your stomach your entire body relaxes. Relaxed bodies are relaxed minds.

On the other hand, if you are tense, rigid and inflexible you tend to give yourself unnecessary sickness (such as hypertension and stroke and other cardiovascular diseases).

So, I say, give it up, man; give up the desire to be serious and important and laugh at the absurdity that is the human condition.

Just think about who we are. In thinking we are like the gods we think exist outside us but in body we are just plain animals that eat food, digest it and poop it out like other animals do.

We are the stuff of laughter (Shakespeare said that we are the stuff that dreams are made of), so, laugh, my friend, laughing is good for you.

As for fear, well, that subject is too complex for me to deal with it here. I have written extensively on fear. For now just know that humorless people tend to be fearful people.

This does not mean that humorous people are not fearful; their fear is repressed into their ego unconscious minds so that they are generally not aware of it. But if you make them fearful they behave hysterically (in hysteria folks are in extreme freight).

Ozodi Thomas Osuji

August 30, 2017

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Ozodi Osuji Ph.D

Ozodi Thomas Osuji is from Imo State, Nigeria. He obtained his PhD from UCLA. He taught at a couple of Universities and decided to go back to school and study psychology. Thereafter, he worked in the mental health field and was the Executive Director of two mental health agencies. He subsequently left the mental health environment with the goal of being less influenced by others perspectives, so as to be able to think for himself and synthesize Western, Asian and African perspectives on phenomena. Dr Osuji’s goal is to provide us with a unique perspective, one that is not strictly Western or African but a synthesis of both. Dr Osuji teaches, writes and consults on leadership, management, politics, psychology and religions. Dr Osuji is married and has three children; he lives at Anchorage, Alaska, USA.

He can be reached at: (907) 310-8176