Thursday, 17 August 2017 22:28

Change your self concept and know happiness

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Ozodi Thomas Osuji

Everywhere on planet earth people want to be happy; the means for happiness is in them while they go looking for it outside them.

If you want to be happy do this: change your self-concept and self-image. It is as simple as that.

Each of us has a self-concept which he sees in image form; he made it with the help of all people.  He defends his self-concept because he believes that it is who he is.

The self-concept is associated with body (and society); one can see that bodies can be harmed and destroyed, die; thus, one fears the death of one's self concept and defends it with fear (and anger shame, guilt, pride, repression, suppression, denial, projection, displacement, dissociation, compensation with a big self, rationalization, sublimation, reaction-formation, avoidance, fantasy, minimizing and the other ego defense mechanisms).  People live to defend their egos; some do so flexibly whereas others do it rigidly.

Here is the truth.  The world you see with your physical eyes is a dream, literally, not figuratively; it does not exist but seems to exist.

The ego separated self that adjusts to the world of dreams is not real; the ego in body is a fictional self, a dream self, it does not exist.

As long as one sleeps and dreams the ego self is used to dream and seems real to one and one defends it.

Relative to the needs of this world, some bodies and egos are healthier and adapt better to the exigencies of this world; some people's bodies and egos (both not real) are not healthy and do not adapt well to this world.

Regardless of whether your ego and body adapts well to this world or not, it is not real; it does not exist; it has not existed for a second but to you it exists; we defend our egos and our defense makes them seem to exist for us.

You already have a body and ego otherwise you would not see you in this world of dreams. What you now need to do is change your ego self-concept.

Change your self-concept aka ego from rigid to flexible self.  Do not take your ego and body seriously; see it as a dream figure that you use in dreaming in a dreaming world; believe that you have a different self, a self  not in body, not in form, a self that is a part of the universal consciousness/intelligence that folks call God (God is nameless).

See your ego and body as something with which you play in the dream that is this world. Do not worry about what other people say of it. It is not real, remember, so why bother with what other unreal egos and bodies say of your unreal ego and body?

Unreality liked or not liked is still unreality. You are using your unreal ego and body to play in the world of nothing called planet earth. If you do so your ego and body would now be flexible and you would have relative happiness and peace.

If you desire perfect happiness and peace all you need to do is entirely give up your identification with your body and ego self-concept; accept that you do not have a body and ego and then relax.

You do not have ego in body; you do have another self; what that different self is you cannot know for as long as you identify with the false ego and body.

Let go of the body and ego and you would escape from our world; first, you see you in your present form in a world that still looks like our world of forms but here everything is in light forms; and, finally, you escape to a formless world, what folks call heaven.

Heaven is beyond words; no one can put it into words.  It is total peace and joy. If you are in that world you would not be aware of our present world or the world of light forms.

After experiencing formless heaven you return to our world of bodily forms but from now on know that you are not body and ego so you do not defend your ego and body and you live flexibly, happily and peacefully.

Heaven is not earned for it was never lost; it is your home and the self you have in it is your real self. The only requirement to experience your real self, part of unified spirit self, is for you to give up seeing you as the ego in body, dense or light body.

You do not have to be perfect to return to your real self and heaven; all you have to do is give up seeing you as a body and ego.


People on earth know that their bodies and egos are nothing yet they value them; they want to make their egos and bodies seem important even though they are not. Human civilization is an attempt to make what is not important, ego and body seem important.

You and your ego and the world you live in do not exist; therefore, do not take you and the world seriously. Play with your ego and body and play with the world but do not take them seriously.

Those who take their selves and the world seriously are at a lower level of evolution, they are closer to animals than to what human beings could be; they are just evolving out from the animal stage to the human level but are not yet quite human; they are the so-called normal persons; they are the ones used to fight wars and work in factories; they are not yet fully human beings.

There is one real world, unified spirit state, aka heaven and there are our world and the world of light forms; the world of dense and light matters is unreal, are fictions, illusions, dreams.

Some people talk about seven or nine or even twenty dimensions of being and go on to describe those dimensions. The fact is that they have no evidence of the existence of those dimensions; and even if they exist only the unified spirit is real, the rest are illusions for they are not permanent.

Heaven is formless and needs to be formless; it is from its formlessness that the world of forms, our world of matter and the world of light forms are made.


When you identify with formless spirit self you would no longer know fear and the other ego defense mechanisms; however, you are not in that world; you are in our false world and have a false ego and bodily self and must defend that self with fear and the other ego defense mechanisms.

Your level of fear and ego defenses would become flexible if you accept that you have another self, a formless self; you cannot eliminate the ego and its defenses, such as fear, for as long as you live in body and identify with body, space and time.

Occasionally, you should go into meditation and deliberately deny the reality of your ego and body, escape from them and momentarily know bliss.

Ozodi Thomas Osuji

August 15, 2017

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Ozodi Osuji Ph.D

Ozodi Thomas Osuji is from Imo State, Nigeria. He obtained his PhD from UCLA. He taught at a couple of Universities and decided to go back to school and study psychology. Thereafter, he worked in the mental health field and was the Executive Director of two mental health agencies. He subsequently left the mental health environment with the goal of being less influenced by others perspectives, so as to be able to think for himself and synthesize Western, Asian and African perspectives on phenomena. Dr Osuji’s goal is to provide us with a unique perspective, one that is not strictly Western or African but a synthesis of both. Dr Osuji teaches, writes and consults on leadership, management, politics, psychology and religions. Dr Osuji is married and has three children; he lives at Anchorage, Alaska, USA.

He can be reached at: (907) 310-8176